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With every obst… March 28, 2012

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With every obstacle in my life, I ask myself where the hidden blessing is. The problem has already happened. Now look for what or where the opportunity is that this problem has brought you. Look for the lesson the answer is always within you, not outside you, as the problem and your mind would have you think.

What If? March 26, 2012

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I had a dream last night and in the dream, I was teaching my work. Before we start I asked, are there any questions? A student raised their hand and said how long will it take to learn this work? I said, interesting question and I will answer that in a second, but first let me ask you a question. What part of your being asked that question? Moreover, why is it asking that? Have you ever wondered how long it will take to learn something and then talk yourselves out of even starting, without even knowing the answer?

What if we did know the answer, would we do it if it took a month, a year, a lifetime? What is our motivation for starting to learn something? Is there a passion for your desire so that no matter how long it takes you will show up, you will do the work. On the other hand, is it, well if it takes that long I will just do something else? Do you find a way to talk yourself out of it? Who is doing that talking anyway? It surely is not that part of you that had the desire. Who is in charge?

If I meditate how long will it take me to reach enlightenment? If I date this person, will we fall in love and be married forever? If I go to the gym how long will it take me to lose this weight? Are these the questions of our soul or something else at work? Do these types of questions often stop us in our tracks before we even start?

What if we just start the journey without question and follow our guidance, our intuition, that deeper yearning of the soul. What if we just show up for life and do what is next. Just go on the date. Just go to the gym. Just meditate without expectation. What if we just follow our soul’s desire and see what happens. What if we let that little voice just take a rest? What if we use our fears and insecurities to create what we want instead of holding us back? What if?

Are we Doomed? February 6, 2012

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A competition-based society like the one we live in today is doomed to fail. Why, because the value of the one cannot outweigh the value of the whole if we want to survive. The esoteric idea that we are all connected or that we are all one is no longer just some mystical or new age thought. Its validity is being proven through science. Therefore, if we continue to follow our current path in the pursuit of getting more and more stuff, more and more money then we will most definitely parish by the way of our own deeds. It is not that these things are inherently evil or that we cannot have them, but it comes down to who is driving the bus. Do we let our deluded must have thinking continue to guide us down the path of self-destruction or do we step back into the driver’s seat and self correct our destination. We are reaching a crucial point of choice for our very survival and the survival of our children. What will you choose?

January 16, 2012

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“We can hear the truth or read the truth. However, this is not the same as divining the truth through inner exploration. Why? Because sensing the truth at this superficial level makes it vulnerable to our false beliefs and worldly conditioning. It will most likely become lost or forgotten and never lived in our daily lives. The outcome from this inner exploration will not only change you but the world as a whole.”

Never hide from yourself the way you really feel about someone or something. November 20, 2011

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“Never hide from yourself the way you really feel about someone or something. Make it conscious to yourself and do not feel guilty about it. Just look at the way you really feel, while considering it an intelligent exercise in psychic health, which it is. Any temporary feeling of discomfort should be considered as normal to the exercise, for it is caused by the clash between the conscious real and the unconscious unreal. Be active with this exercise, remembering that we are punished by whatever we hide from ourselves.” -Vernon Howard

Question: How do I live this way in my daily life?

Answer: Oh yes, practical application, the fun stuff. I really do mean fun, if you change your perception and no longer think something is hard or difficult you will begin to find more ease in the process. For me seeing my personal and spiritual growth as fun changed my experience of it and that changed the outcome. This does not mean it won’t be challenging, but haven’t you ever done something fun that was challenging. You are bringing together the scattered pieces of a puzzle to complete the picture and reveal the real you.

OK there is a lot I could say here but let me get to it for the sake of space. These tools will help you to stop hiding from yourself the way you really feel about someone or something and begin to make it conscious to yourself.

I believe the foundation for all personal and spiritual growth begins with awareness, without awareness how can we change. With the seed of awareness, desire begins to grow, and then intention comes and finally out of intention comes manifestation. Remember I said this was the quick and dirty version OK maybe not that dirty.

How do we develop awareness? Well there are many ways of course to develop awareness. One would think that this is natural for us or that we are already aware, however years of social conditioning have trained us to shut this natural ability down or at least it has been minimized. Remember no matter how aware you think you are you can always develop a deeper awareness.

Again, for the sake of space I will only mention two. The first is what I call body scanning and the second is meditation. You will find two articles I wrote in 2006 explaining body scanning and some other thoughts that will help here: http://bit.ly/uxMrzr and http://bit.ly/gaVNdq. Body scanning is a form of meditation; however, it works with the mind and the body at the same time. There are many misconceptions about meditation these days and most people get frustrated when they first try it. This is a normal part of the process for many and it requires practice and the ability to stick with it. In addition, finding a form that works for you is very important. You do not have to sit is a seated pose, like lotus position with your legs crossed to meditate. I urge you to investigate the many options if developing your awareness is important to you.

Once you begin to work with one or both of these tools, you will begin to have more clarity and awareness of your thoughts, feelings and emotions. With any new tool, practice is required, there is no timeframe when a shift will occur it depends on your desire and willingness to change. With an unbending intention to succeed you cannot fail.

Pay attention to your thoughts and be aware of what you feel as things come up during the day. Pay attention to your body and recognize the messages it is sending you. If you feel anger for example, where do you feel this is your body? One of your greatest allies you have on this journey is your body. You only need to learn how to read the messages it sends. Moreover, remember the more you practice the more you remember to notice what you are thinking. Do not beat yourself up, when you forget let it go and start again. The three most important things you can do is practice, practice practice.

 

The Gift of Pain March 19, 2011

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I have learned many things on this journey, but one of the most important is that pain is a gift. Whether physical or emotional it is a guide to healing and transformation. It will carry you back to the light, bring you peace and strengthen your connection to the creative energy we all come from, no matter your religious beliefs, atheist or agnostic, its gift comes to all when we open up to it and let go.

One thing I know for sure… March 9, 2011

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…and have personal experience with is that in every life experience, particularly the ones where we struggle the most, is our greatest opportunity for growth and change. It is our greatest opportunity to reconnect and strengthen our spiritual connection.

We can influence the outcome of these experiences by developing our awareness, changing our attitude, perception, intention and taking action during these shifts in consciousness. The outcome is not always what we expect, however, it is just what we need to experience to effect the greatest change for our highest good. If we change our perception about the experience, importance of outcome is no longer influenced by the ego, but now comes from the heart, directly from spirit.

If we change our perception about the experience then the experience we have changes. Allowing us to receive the true healing and learning from the experience. Once you have made this shift, how you see your life and the world is forever changed.

Is life really like a box of chocolates? February 9, 2011

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Moments that we isolate , label good or bad, and tie together by something we call time or could it be something different; something that is infinite, without boundaries or constraints of time?

Do we learn from these isolated moment that we label good or bad and do we shape our present moment based on those experiences rather than what is actually happening in the moment?

Can we learn to live in the moment by our changing perceptions and beliefs? Moreover, if we do change our perceptions and beliefs will our thoughts and experiences change?

What are your thoughts? Are these ideas something that you have contemplated?

The question was asked of me is life meant to be a struggle? January 10, 2011

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Royce first you need to look at where struggle comes from; it is a perception about something that is happening that we do not like. We begin to resist and when we resist something, it persists and intensifies therefore we create struggle.

Once we change our perception about the situation the struggle falls away and we often have a light bulb moment. Everyone has experienced this in relationship break-ups, lost jobs or other life events. The key is to begin to see the situation for what it is as its happening and not resist the NOW.

I believe an enlightened state is the ability to do this in the moment with every situation. As R David said, this can happen even when things are going well. So once you have the clarity that you are struggling ask yourself how can I see the truth in this situation. Pray/ask for a change of perception to see that truth.

Once you change your perception the struggle will release. Moreover, realize this is a process and it does not happen overnight for most people. However, it will happen at the perfect pace for you because everything is in perfect order, ALWAYS. OK, I admit it is not always easy to see, but that is a perception too.

You already know how to do this, you just need to remember it in every situation that arises where struggle could arise. Change your perception and change your experience. Change your experience and change the outcome. Change the outcome and life becomes the river that you flow with instead of an upstream struggle.

Remembering Mom and Dad at Christmas December 12, 2010

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I started this blog just a few weeks before my Dad turned ill last year. As many of you know, I lost both my parents and had knee surgery from a torn meniscus during the past year. Certainly not how I planned for 2010 to go. However, as we all have or will experience life does not always go as planned.

I was going through some cards and found the Christmas card I had bought my parent last year and had never given them. It brought back fond memories of Christmases past like the time I wanted a go-cart.

Well I got one, but this one did not quite fulfill my 6?-year-old expectations. The one I wanted had a gas-powered engine and this one unfortunately was kid powered, you know peddle driven. Well in my disgust, I walked up, gave it a good kick, and expressed my displeasure. Obviously, I was too young for a gas-powered go-cart but like most parents, they went out of their way to try to fulfill my wishes. We had a few good laughs over the years about my antics that day.

 

Know how blessed you are to still have your parents in your life and let them know it this holiday season and throughout the year.

Love is the light

in the windows of home—

Oh what a beautiful sight!

It sparkles with memories of you,

Mom and Dad,

And the Christmases you’ve made so bright.

Love is the light

In your welcoming smiles,

The light of your kindness and care.

It beams even brighter with every year

And every new memory we share.

Love is the light

In the windows of home,

Warmly it glows all year through

For love is the light

That forever will shine

In the hearts of two parents like you!

 

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