What I have learned is that our first instinct is to think that we have to understand our problems; that we have to figure them out and know them to let go and heal.
Understanding the problem is not the catalyst for change.
In fact, thinking this means that we have to hold onto our problems until we figure them out, which usually never happens anyway. We often just reach a point of suffering that forces us to let go without knowing.
You can avoid more suffering by releasing the idea that you need to know to heal. You can trust that everything you need to know will come with ease. This new perception will allow you to let go with greater ease and less suffering. Therefore, the choice becomes, do I want to let go and change or do I want to hold on and figure it out.