Many things in life keep us stuck and from moving forward in the way that we want. The unconscious resistance we experience is caused by a very long list of things that partially includes our thoughts, beliefs, perceptions, and feelings.

It is not a question whether you have resistance in your life or not, but how strongly it affects you. Becoming aware of your resistance is the first step, and that only happens through awareness and paying attention.

Here are four feelings that tell us something important about ourselves and show us that we are resisting life in some way. They are anger, boredom, hate, and frustration.

• First, they say that we are not taking responsibility for what we are feeling.
• Second, we are not paying attention to our own inner state.
• Third, that we are placing blame on something or someone else. Therefore, the problem is out there.
• Fourth, it shows that we are no longer in the present moment and not paying attention because we are lost in emotion and/or thought.

When we point to anyone or anything outside of ourselves, or when we try to explain something away, we are lost. The thoughts we have tell us that we are not responsible for what we are feeling. In those moments, we are not capable of seeing the truth, and we are no longer in the present moment because we are too busy placing blame elsewhere to try to make ourselves feel justified or better. There is a reason why I am feeling this way, so I do not need to look any further.

There is always a moment of clarity if we are paying attention that will offer us an opportunity.  If we seize the opportunity, we can recognize the problem resides in us and nowhere else. A simple way to know this is true is to see that someone else in the same situation will respond appropriately and without feeling out of balance.

Now, I know it is not an easy task, to pay attention during these situations, but anyone can do it if they want. Know that it may take repeated practice. However, if you have a clear intention to let go of who you have become the Universe will offer plenty of practice time, I promise. Moreover, with practice, one day you will surprise yourself with how far you have come. For most of us waking up is not an event but a journey. You must remain diligent.