Handling the Transitions of Life


I awakened the other day with the word transition in my awareness—something we all experience many times during our lifetime. For example, a change in jobs, where we live, or a relationship, to name a few. I have never seen so many people experiencing a myriad of transitions simultaneously, at least not that I can remember in my 63 years.

During these times, many of us do not know what to do. We feel lost, fearful, anxious, or worried, maybe all of them. In some cases, we can feel excited about our new transitional prospects. Of course, excitement is not the word I would use for our experiences with Covid-19. And yet I can assure you that many of your thoughts around these events are not valid if investigated. And when investigated for their truth or lack thereof, we can calm our state. Of course, you must be willing to look and feel what you need to sincerely without resistance. Coming from greater awareness always leads to insight.

In our efforts during transitional times to find security and peace, we often move too quickly. We want things to go back the way they were, so we can feel safe, or at least the illusion of safety.

Decisions are made from a place of old thinking, beliefs, habits, conditioning, and behaviors. So, we make choices based on how things used to be instead of how they are now. We do not take the time to know what we want or who we have become in life. Do you want to make different choices moving forward? Choices from a more aware and awake state that lead to a more peaceful and joyful life? Then you must take some time to figure out who you have become, who you really are, and what you want. You must turn your autopilot off.

When we do not do this, we can easily make choices that send us right back where we use to be. The story looks different for a while, may even feel exciting, and then we end up one day feeling like before. And many of you have experienced this; you make a significant change thinking it will fix everything, and it solves nothing.

For example, I have seen many people come out of a long-term marriage and immediately look for a new relationship. They do not feel comfortable being alone or feel they need companionship to be happy. Therefore, they go looking for comfort and feeling happy from someone else instead of finding it in themselves. They find someone who feels like the one only to have it fail or find out later that they still do not feel the way they want. This is more common than you think and can happen in many different areas of one’s life.

Not taking the time to get to know who we are and what we want, not just what we think we want, only leads us down the road of suffering and making poor choices.

Trying to push and pull our way through life, thinking we are in control of it all the time is an illusion. Your best efforts to control everything in your life have failed, haven’t they?

I assure you that life takes care of life. It is time to live in the present moment. Wishing things to go back the way they were will change nothing. Instead of wanting things to go back the way they were, doesn’t it make sense to move forward from a new awareness instead of creating from old behaviors and conditioning?

Awareness is one of our greatest gifts and can change how you experience life. Taking the time to slow down and get to know ourselves from a more meaningful place is how we find the peace that is our birthright. It is always available to us and always with us. You only need to rediscover that underneath all the unsolicited thinking that tells you otherwise. You can do this by paying more attention to your thoughts.

Is this something you can do, or does your mind tell you otherwise? Observe your thoughts, and you will see the truth, or you are free to continue to follow their guidance without question. Will you follow the mind’s guidance or your souls? It is up to you to decide no one else can do it for you.

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