Co-Dependency and Letting-Go

Have you ever awakened to your generosity being taken advantage of, and then feel guilty for not helping anymore? This is not unique to you and happens too many of us. It is in our nature to be kind and helpful.

When we become co-dependent with a friend or family member, it is easy for them to expect our generosity every time they call on us. They can even become upset when we do not give them exactly what they want. A sure sign the relationship is co-dependent, and you need to wake up.

The hardest thing to do is to let go, but that will be the most helpful for everyone involved.

When you put everyone else first, you risk your physical and emotional well-being, then what will you have to offer anyone who actually can benefit from your help. Usually, once we let go the other person steps up and takes responsibility for their problems. However, we do not have control over their choices and the path they are on in this life. They must be free to make their own mistakes and learn from them. Otherwise, they will never realize how powerful they are and what they are capable of in this life.

The Fear of Feeling

When the fear of feeling our emotional and physical pain becomes more significant than our intention to heal, we fall into a state of resistance and contraction. When we resist and contract we fail to release the energy of this pain entirely, and part or all of it remains in the body.

The ongoing presence of this energy in our body literally influences our lives on a daily basis through our thoughts, choices, and actions. It can also affect the physical body in a myriad of ways including illness.

It is not until it comes back into our awareness through self-inquiry or another event that brings it up into our conscious awareness that we can release it. At that time it must be felt and released, or it will remain stuck indefinitely and impacting our lives in some way.

 

Have You Been Tricked Already?

We are often tricked by the mind to think that we have to figure things out or understand them to let go and heal. The truth is when we think this way; we are destined to hold onto our problems in hopes of finding the answer. However, what if the answer never comes; this is how we become saddled with our problems.

What I’ve learned through my work and life is that if we are meant to know something, the information will always show up. You must ask yourself what is more important, to figure it out or to let it go. Your answer should always be to let it go and then trust that if you are meant to know something useful, it will come to you with ease. Do not make the healing process more difficult by always having to know everything because sometimes you will never figure it out.

 

Making America Great Again with Compassion

Whether you call yourself religious or not,  do not forget that compassion has no hierarchy of worthy and unworthy, and it makes no distinctions between the deserving and the undeserving. Wherever there is suffering, there is a need for compassion. We often forget this and instead spue hatred toward those in need. We are so busy protecting what we think is ours and ours alone that we cannot see the suffering of others. We are all here experiencing our humanness together, and we must support one another if we ever want to live in peace. Putting up imaginary walls to protect ourselves or a real one will not protect us, we only think it will. What happens instead is that we lose our humanity; our compassion and most of all our ability to see the truth.

Losing Our Hearts in Disagreement and Hate

We have become so polarized by our conditioned beliefs in this country and around the world that we can no longer see our true nature, but instead, we focus only on our differences. Our misguided thinking creates hate, separation and wrecks havoc on our bodies and minds.

Operating in this confused state is like putting blinders on a horse, and our views become bound by our conditioned beliefs. We lose sight of the expansiveness of life, the beauty of diversity, and our ability to compromise is lost. We are no longer rational but solely focused on our unyielding desires.

It is no longer possible to see the Divine in others or the oneness of all things. From this place the seed of destruction in planted through our thoughts and when the light no longer pushes through the darkness we are lost.

However, hope is not lost, the light is always shining just like the sun above the clouds and you; yes you have the power to turn the course by connecting once again to your divine self. By being kind to one another, posting only uplifting and supportive things, not just, what you think is right or falls into alignment with your beliefs.

Stop perpetuating the separation and hate of your misguided thinking. Think of other’s first instead of your desires, be a human being instead of just being a human who wants what they want and thinks that their way is the only way.

Make choices from your heart for a change and let your thoughts go. When one person is in pain, we are all in pain. When we reach out with an open hand instead of a closed fist, we have the opportunity to heal. Our country only becomes great again, when everyone is elevated, not just a few and certainly not just when we get what we want.

Love is the answer, not hate. We must come together not just as a country but also in the world if we truly believe in something greater than ourselves. Otherwise, continuing to put ourselves first selfishly, will only lead to more injury in the fabric of our collective lives.

Connection

Life is not about being correct; it is about being connected. Too often in life, we choose to fight to be right over connecting, being in the moment and listening. This causes separation and creates an environment of discord. We can no longer hear what someone else says because we are too busy formulating our response and being right. It is my way or the highway!

Love, understanding, compassion, and empathy only show up when we feel connected with someone, and the oneness of all things. If we only see our differences, we will never be able to find the middle ground or any lasting peace. We will forever remain in a state of anxiety, upset, anger and worry.

Therefore, we can always be right, or we can let go of our rigid thinking and be open to experiencing our true nature instead of who we have become, a conditioned, inflexible thinking human. We must find our way back to connection, awaken to our oneness and begin living in the present moment.

If you feel anxious, lost or live in worry and pain, then you are being called to begin this journey. Do not ignore the signs because it is your time to awaken. Let go of your resistance and the fight to be right and step on the path to self-discovery. It is here that you will find your way back to your true nature, find peace and a connection to something greater than yourself.

The Excitement of FEAR

Life can be difficult at times, which can cause emotions to run wild and wreak havoc on our sleep, body, and life. We experience worry, anxiety and endless thoughts that things will not go our way.

We become frozen in fear and are not able to take the steps we need to, to create what we want. Our fear becomes the instigator of manifesting what we worried about in the first place because of our lack of action.

Here are a few acronyms for fear I learned years ago. You may have heard them before:

False Evidence Appearing Real”

Face Everything And Recover”

Future Events Already Ruined”

However, this next one has more power in it. It is important to know that we can change our perceptions. Once we do our experience also changes. Therefore, the acronym for fear I want to share with you today is this:

Feeling Excited And Ready”

Now doesn’t that feel different from the other ones when you read it? Yes, the three I mentioned above can bring new insight to your situation, but they do not necessarily get you moving or encourage taking action. When we feel a sense of adventure taking action is much easier because we want to move forward, our fear shifts or drops away entirely and no longer is an obstacle, it becomes a motivator. Yes, fear can be a motivator.

Back in my alcoholic drinking days, the fear of going to jail became a motivator for me to stop drinking and it got me to take action. If you think about it, at some point in your life fear was a decisive factor in making some kind of positive change in your life, and you just did not notice it at the time.

Therefore, the next time you become overwhelmed with fear and your thoughts run amuck, remember the acronym and say to yourself, I am feeling excited and ready; I am prepared for this new adventure. From this new perspective, you can start taking action instead of being paralyzed in a fearful story of your own making.