“With awareness, we awaken to cure what is not meant to be endured and endure what cannot be cured, and from this place, we live in the moment, where suffering is optional.”
There is a belief by many that the perfect life is a pain-free life. This is a false assumption brought about by our own conditioning and misguided thinking. With this belief, a perfect life is unattainable. Why, because there will always be pain in this world, it is an unavoidable part of our life because we have physical and emotional feelings as human beings. Without them, we would not be having a human experience; it would be something altogether different.
You cannot resist pain and embody peace at the same time this is not possible. Real peace comes from the understanding that pain is necessary, and it is not a punishment. It is only by changing your perception about pain that you can begin the journey to finding lasting peace.
You must no longer see your pain as a punishment or a problem, but an opportunity to heal. It is an indicator that something in your life is out of balance and once it is put back into balance, the pain will disappear or no longer matter to you. If you continue to resist this guidance, then you will suffer.
To avoid suffering, you must embrace what is happening, move into acceptance when you are faced with the truth and let go of any resistance to that truth. Once you do, you open the door to connecting with your innate nature, which is always in a peaceful state. From this place, you can remain peaceful no matter what is happening outside of you. It allows you to see things more clearly and make better choices in life. This shift does not just affect yourself but also the collective energy that connects us all.
Many things in life keep us stuck and from moving forward in the way that we want. The unconscious resistance we experience is caused by a very long list of things that partially includes our thoughts, beliefs, perceptions, and feelings.
It is not a question whether you have resistance in your life or not, but how strongly it affects you. Becoming aware of your resistance is the first step, and that only happens through awareness and paying attention.
Here are four feelings that tell us something important about ourselves and show us that we are resisting life in some way. They are anger, boredom, hate, and frustration.
- First, they say that we are not taking responsibility for what we are feeling.
- Second, we are not paying attention to our own inner state.
- Third, that we are placing blame on something or someone else. Therefore, the problem is out there.
- Fourth, it shows that we are no longer in the present moment and not paying attention because we are lost in emotion and/or thought.
When we point to anyone or anything outside of ourselves, or when we try to explain something away, we are lost. The thoughts we have tell us that we are not responsible for what we are feeling. In those moments, we are not capable of seeing the truth, and we are no longer in the present moment because we are too busy placing blame elsewhere to try to make ourselves feel justified or better. There is a reason why I am feeling this way, so I do not need to look any further.
There is always a moment of clarity if we are paying attention that will offer us an opportunity. If we seize the opportunity, we can recognize the problem resides in us and nowhere else. A simple way to know this is true is to see that someone else in the same situation will respond appropriately and without feeling out of balance.
Now, I know it is not an easy task, to pay attention during these situations, but anyone can do it if they want. Know that it may take repeated practice. However, if you have a clear intention to let go of who you have become the Universe will offer plenty of practice time, I promise. Moreover, with practice, one day you will surprise yourself with how far you have come. For most of us waking up is not an event but a journey. You must remain diligent.
Here is the thing, if you are not consciously involved in how your life is evolving, then be ready to wake up one day and wonder how you ended up where you are in life.
If you are not present for what is happening, I guarantee there will be suffering. Being able to change your perception of what is happening is a requirement for staying in the moment and avoiding suffering.
You cannot robotically go through your daily life and at the same time live in the moment. You must wake up and become aware of your robotic thoughts and actions if you want to stay in the present moment.
If you embrace change, explore your inner self, become present for whatever is happening in your life, then you will see the miracles happening all around you.
Trust that what is happening is for your highest good. I assure you that it is no matter how it seems at the time. Otherwise, life will feel like it is beating you up all the time with one difficult thing after another. Take it from me this is not fun at all. Life is not meant to be lived this way. I offer this change in perception. Instead of thinking that life is conspiring against you, know that it is always conspiring in your favor.
When the mind is at peace, the world is at peace. Are you willing to put some effort toward making your mind peaceful? Failure is impossible when any honest and consistent effort is taken toward this intention.
I know that more than any other action toward world peace this action will bring it to fruition, but only if you are willing. To dream of something better is just a dream without an unbending intention and effort.
Instead of asking for world peace, ask how you can bring stillness to your mind. Take action as needed toward this goal and then watch the world change.
We are usually satisfied when we get what we want in life, at least for a while. Then, of course, there are those times when things do not go our way, which makes us feel sad, angry, frustrated or even lost. We look around at others and wonder why we cannot have the life they have. We pray for things to change and if they don’t, we become angry; angry with God, we feel forsaken. Where did our faith go?
In truth, life gives us exactly what we need in every moment, and true faith is unconditional acceptance. Once unconditional acceptance fills your life you have finally opened the doors to unconditional love. What could be more powerful? The next time life throws you a curve ball, try some unconditional acceptance on for size and really show the Divine just how much trust and faith you have.
Pain is part of our journey and something we will all experience. Suffering, however, is optional and not a requirement. Jesus did not suffer on the cross. He experienced pain, but he knew how to forgive and love unconditionally. The ones who suffered were his accusers and attackers because they lived in fear and hate.
Every experience of pain brings opportunity with it; we only have to look for it. Pain teaches us all how to live a better life when we are willing to listen. Once we do, our suffering melts away, leaving us with a stronger connection to who we really are, the Divine clothed in humanness.
Eventually, on the path of awakening, you will recognize that the obstacle is part of the journey. Living a peaceful life is not about avoiding obstacles, or trying to resist what is happening now, that will only cause more suffering.
A change in your perception will change the experience, and that will change the outcome. Let me say it another way. The problem is not the issue as much as your perception about it. Change your perception, and your problem can become an opportunity.