Falling Apart

“The ego’s root feeling is that if I do not hold myself together there will be a falling apart into something chaotic and difficult. So there is anxiety, an energetic anxiety which is located in the body, in the whole energetic system of the body and interpersonal turbulence reminds us again and again C’.” ~ Dalai Lama

Falling apart to me means letting go of that which no longer serves us, which means letting go of your conditioning. Conditioning contributes to the person you have become and how you interact with life, it is not the real you that is under all that conditioning.

I explained it this way to one of my clients. When NASA sends a rocket up into space at some point, the rocket drops its booster because it is no longer needed and they keep the main rocket from soaring to its destination. Our conditioning is like the booster; at some point, it begins to weigh us downs and prevents us from soaring in life.

The thought that, “If I do not hold myself together there will be a falling apart,” keeps us from living in the present moment. We must admit the truth to ourselves and stop believing our thoughts, which have no basis in reality. Listening and believing only in our thoughts lead us in a needless never-ending cycle of despair, worry, anxiety, and suffering.

Self-inquiry can expose this kind of wrong thinking every time and remember that we can feel that we are right without being right, but that we cannot be right without feeling right. Therefore, if you are not feeling centered and peaceful pay attention to how you are thinking and be open to a little self-insight.

Make 2019 a Life Changing Year

What I am about to share with you may feel contrary to all that you know. All that society has taught you. However, what follows can bring you more peace than all your seeking put together. We are conditioned to think that we are not enough, that we have to change in some way to become something better; to do more and if we do, our reward of a better life, peace, and happiness will come.

Have you ever wondered what makes us think this way?

When in fact, what we seek we already have, but we cannot see it because of all our conditioning, busyness, and misguided thinking.

All the searching you have done, even all the letting go, and healing has not led you to the place you seek. Has it? There always seems to be more letting go, healing and seeking to do on your spiritual path and in this life.

So what is the answer? First, begin the New Year by setting aside some time to be quiet. I know that many of you find this hard to do because you think that you must stop all thought to meditate, to be quiet. However, this is not true. You do not have to quit thinking, just let your thoughts be. Do not follow your thoughts; let them float by without attachment. Can you become the watcher of your thoughts, rather than the thinker? This may seem like an unusual request but try it.

Remember that when you were born, you had to learn to walk. You did not come out of the womb wearing track shoes and running. Therefore, be patient with yourself because you will attach to the thoughts that say you are not doing it right, you do not know how or that you do not understand.

These are the thoughts you want to watch float by, by becoming the watcher. From this place and with practice you will begin to reconnect with the real you — the one that lies beneath all the conditioning, beliefs, and ideas that you have accumulated over the years. This is who you have become, and it is not who you are; it is not the real you.

In addition, throughout your day be with what is. Do not wish things to be different. Do not try to make them different, become the watcher. This may not be easy at first for some of you, but I can assure you, this intention to breathe the life of each moment just as it is has what you seek already in it.

If you find yourself getting frustrated, notice that you are no longer watching and that you have started running with your thoughts again. Take a breath, reset your intention and become the watcher. Every time you notice that your thoughts have carried you away, bring yourself back. It is natural at the beginning for your thoughts and habits to take you elsewhere. So be gentle with yourself when this happens to you, take a deep breath and become the watcher.

Remember, you are not your thoughts or habits, and they are not in charge of you. Bring yourself back to the calm and peaceful being that you are deep within and feel the presence of the real you once again. This ongoing, even intermittent practice and experience with presence is all that is needed to feel and experience this higher truth for yourself.

I want you to experience this for yourself because this is the only way it becomes real for you. Books and teachers can only point the way you must allow peace back into your life, and no one can do that for you. You must have a desire to experience it for yourself and be willing to practice. You cannot fail when you remain steadfast to your unbending intention to experience more peace in your life and to live in the now, to live life with presence.

If you have questions, please contact me, you are not alone, and I am here to help in any way I can.

The Brain, Body and Healing

Your body is a wonder and does so much more than you think or know. Only considering it one thing, like a temple or a vehicle to use on this human journey is so naïve. For example, it is a storehouse of emotion, information, and energy. Of course, all things in their purest form are energy.

Many think that the brain is where all data is stored. However, this is far from the truth, unprocessed elements are often left behind in various parts of the body. In fact, this unprocessed energy can be stored anywhere in the body. This type of energy can affect you immediately or lie dormant for years undetected and then rise up causing illness, pain or emotional upheaval after trauma or some other trigger.

There are many ways of exploring and releasing this energy. For instance, certain types of bodywork like Spiral Release Bodywork®, energy work, yoga or meditation to name a few. Each one of us must find the path that allows us to let go. Just be careful that your own conditioning does not fool you into thinking you are on the right road only to wake up years later realizing you are still lost. When progress is being made when your life changes for the better rather than remaining the same, you know you are going the correct way, which will need rigorous honesty on your part.

Life needs us to bring greater awareness into our lives to heal, to reconnect with our True-Self and to release the False-Self, the person we have become from this energy and our conditioning. If we are not willing to feel our pain and emotion, then we are destined to live out our lives in a haze never realizing the greater possibilities available to us.

Short and Sweet #56 – Irritation

Most of us have experienced irritation for one reason or another in our life. This irritation is a clue about our unconscious programming. Remember, everything that irritates us can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves. When we watch our reactions, responses, feelings, and thoughts about other people and events, we are given an opportunity to make a shift in our field of awareness. This shift allows us to let go of our unconscious programming, which releases the behaviors that no longer serve us.

First, make a decision that this is your intention, then begin to notice each time you become irritated. Sometimes you may not see your irritation until after the fact, and that is OK. The important thing is the recognition of the irritation, not when you notice it. As you continue this practice, you will eventually feel or hear your irritation right when it happens.

Irritation will make itself known to you through your thoughts, a feeling or a sensation in your body. Once you become aware, notice or remember what was said or happened to make you irritated.

Remember this exercise is not about beating yourself up because of your behavior, you are already doing this each time you get irritated. Irritation throws your body into an uncomfortable state, changing your mood, blood pressure, heart rate, and many other physiological changes occur. This is about letting go, just notice, reset your intention to notice your next irritation and move on. Over time, you will let go of the energetic pattern (behavior), and your True Self will rise to the surface leaving you more relaxed and peaceful.

Original post 3-26-2014 edited and reposted 12-10-2018

Feeding the Mind

Most of us think about what food we put into our bodies. Of course, we do not always do a great job, but at least we try. However, many of us never think about what we are putting into our minds, and we are feeding it all day long with negative information and repetitive thoughts that keep us from being in the moment and present with those we love.
 
You know what I am talking about; we even start forming our response in the middle of someone else’s thought, without really listening and giving them a chance to finish. Pay more attention, and you will see that what I am saying is true.

The Greater Intelligence That Created Us

A greater intelligence exists in the universe than our human intelligence. Some call it God; others call it the Creative Energy of the Universe or Divine Source. There are many other names used to describe this force. We humans forget that we are not the most intelligent and productive force at work in the cosmos.

We are failing to take care of the gift this greater intelligence gives us, which is our human experience and all the life on Mother Earth. It will still be here creating and expanding long after we are gone. We must wake up to our ignorance if we want to continue to survive and thrive. If we work with it, instead of against it, we will be blessed more than we can imagine.

Unfortunately, as history has shown us, we prefer to go our own way. We believe that we are smarter than what created us and because of this, we are sowing the seeds of our destruction.

However, hope should never be lost, but we must wake up to this truth. We must begin to see the damage we cause in the name of power, money, and our righteousness. We must not wait to think about the future. We must take action now so that the generations that follow us not only have a place to live, but they can continue to co-create and expand with this Divine and intelligent energy.

True Success

How do you define true success in your life? Many think that their accomplishments are the sign of a successful life. We are conditioned to believe that the job we have or the money we earn determines our level of success. We are taught to think that the size of our house or the number of possessions we have, signifies success.

Have you noticed that everything that I mentioned above can be taken away at any moment? If it were, would you still consider yourself a successful person or are you now a failure?

The idea that things define our level of success is all based on our conditioning and beliefs that we developed at a very young age, and that gets passed down from generation to generation. Then we carry these beliefs throughout our entire lives without ever exploring what might lie underneath the person we have become and our beliefs. We just assume that this is who we are and that we formed these beliefs out of our own free will.

When we put too much emphasis on what we have acquired or even accomplished, we can tie our identity to them, and when we find ourselves without them, we feel lost in life. We put so much energy into finding, getting or caring for these things, that we do not know who we are without them.

A successful person knows who they really are, their very essence and that allows them to be grounded in the present moment. This requires waking up to our conditioning through awareness and then releasing it.

The conditioned self is called the False-Self. It is the person you have become through your conditioning; an artificial persona that you created to protect yourself.

The True-Self is ever-present awareness, and from this state when something or someone is lost to you, you do not become a casualty of your experience. You are still able to embrace the gift of your life fully, and all that means. You realize that each experience in your life has something to offer you, and that is for your highest good. Even in those times when you do not like it, or it hurts.

Without a keener sense of awareness, you are destined to continue repeating your conditioned behaviors until you die. Without ever knowing true success in this life and what living life to the fullest feels like. You will be fooled by your False-Self into thinking that what you are experiencing now in your life is all it has to offer. This erroneous thinking will keep stuck in a repetitive loop, a sort of sleepwalking, and you will never be able to see true success or enjoy the experience of it.