Short and Sweet #56 – Irritation

Most of us have experienced irritation for one reason or another in our life. This irritation is a clue about our unconscious programming. Remember, everything that irritates us can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves. When we watch our reactions, responses, feelings, and thoughts about other people and events, we are given an opportunity to make a shift in our field of awareness. This shift allows us to let go of our unconscious programming, which releases the behaviors that no longer serve us.

First, make a decision that this is your intention, then begin to notice each time you become irritated. Sometimes you may not see your irritation until after the fact, and that is OK. The important thing is the recognition of the irritation, not when you notice it. As you continue this practice, you will eventually feel or hear your irritation right when it happens.

Irritation will make itself known to you through your thoughts, a feeling or a sensation in your body. Once you become aware, notice or remember what was said or happened to make you irritated.

Remember this exercise is not about beating yourself up because of your behavior, you are already doing this each time you get irritated. Irritation throws your body into an uncomfortable state, changing your mood, blood pressure, heart rate, and many other physiological changes occur. This is about letting go, just notice, reset your intention to notice your next irritation and move on. Over time, you will let go of the energetic pattern (behavior), and your True Self will rise to the surface leaving you more relaxed and peaceful.

Original post 3-26-2014 edited and reposted 12-10-2018

The Greater Intelligence That Created Us

A greater intelligence exists in the universe than our human intelligence. Some call it God; others call it the Creative Energy of the Universe or Divine Source. There are many other names used to describe this force. We humans forget that we are not the most intelligent and productive force at work in the cosmos.

We are failing to take care of the gift this greater intelligence gives us, which is our human experience and all the life on Mother Earth. It will still be here creating and expanding long after we are gone. We must wake up to our ignorance if we want to continue to survive and thrive. If we work with it, instead of against it, we will be blessed more than we can imagine.

Unfortunately, as history has shown us, we prefer to go our own way. We believe that we are smarter than what created us and because of this, we are sowing the seeds of our destruction.

However, hope should never be lost, but we must wake up to this truth. We must begin to see the damage we cause in the name of power, money, and our righteousness. We must not wait to think about the future. We must take action now so that the generations that follow us not only have a place to live, but they can continue to co-create and expand with this Divine and intelligent energy.

True Success

How do you define true success in your life? Many think that their accomplishments are the sign of a successful life. We are conditioned to believe that the job we have or the money we earn determines our level of success. We are taught to think that the size of our house or the number of possessions we have, signifies success.

Have you noticed that everything that I mentioned above can be taken away at any moment? If it were, would you still consider yourself a successful person or are you now a failure?

The idea that things define our level of success is all based on our conditioning and beliefs that we developed at a very young age, and that gets passed down from generation to generation. Then we carry these beliefs throughout our entire lives without ever exploring what might lie underneath the person we have become and our beliefs. We just assume that this is who we are and that we formed these beliefs out of our own free will.

When we put too much emphasis on what we have acquired or even accomplished, we can tie our identity to them, and when we find ourselves without them, we feel lost in life. We put so much energy into finding, getting or caring for these things, that we do not know who we are without them.

A successful person knows who they really are, their very essence and that allows them to be grounded in the present moment. This requires waking up to our conditioning through awareness and then releasing it.

The conditioned self is called the False-Self. It is the person you have become through your conditioning; an artificial persona that you created to protect yourself.

The True-Self is ever-present awareness, and from this state when something or someone is lost to you, you do not become a casualty of your experience. You are still able to embrace the gift of your life fully, and all that means. You realize that each experience in your life has something to offer you, and that is for your highest good. Even in those times when you do not like it, or it hurts.

Without a keener sense of awareness, you are destined to continue repeating your conditioned behaviors until you die. Without ever knowing true success in this life and what living life to the fullest feels like. You will be fooled by your False-Self into thinking that what you are experiencing now in your life is all it has to offer. This erroneous thinking will keep stuck in a repetitive loop, a sort of sleepwalking, and you will never be able to see true success or enjoy the experience of it.

Co-Dependency and Letting-Go

Have you ever awakened to your generosity being taken advantage of, and then feel guilty for not helping anymore? This is not unique to you and happens too many of us. It is in our nature to be kind and helpful.

When we become co-dependent with a friend or family member, it is easy for them to expect our generosity every time they call on us. They can even become upset when we do not give them exactly what they want. A sure sign the relationship is co-dependent, and you need to wake up.

The hardest thing to do is to let go, but that will be the most helpful for everyone involved.

When you put everyone else first, you risk your physical and emotional well-being, then what will you have to offer anyone who actually can benefit from your help. Usually, once we let go the other person steps up and takes responsibility for their problems. However, we do not have control over their choices and the path they are on in this life. They must be free to make their own mistakes and learn from them. Otherwise, they will never realize how powerful they are and what they are capable of in this life.

Mistakes

Would life be different for you if you did not think that making a mistake was wrong? Would you then take more risks in your life? What if I told you that you were conditioned to feel this way and that in truth there is nothing wrong with making mistakes. In fact, that is how we learn.

Think about that for a minute, can you make a wrong choice if you are always learning from your so-called mistakes and moving forward with greater awareness in your life? Would you still consider it a mistake or a gift?

What if your conditioning had not taught you to think that anything short of perfection was wrong or incomplete. What if we had been shown never to fear to make mistakes and we saw them as opportunities, a chance to learn, grow and move forward in life with a new awareness.

Can you look back on your life to times when you thought you made a mistake and it led you to a new understanding about yourself or your life? Can you see that this so-called error was actually a guiding light to something better in your life?

Making a mistake is never wrong if we see it as an opportunity and learn from it. That is the beauty of life, we always have the chance to start over, to learn and make all of our mistakes and problems into victories.

Remember the more significant the mistake or problem, the greater the triumph when you overcome it.

Now, you are to remember that, so that when you have a disturbance of any kind raging inside you, you will never follow your conditioning and go into automatic thinking that the storm is stronger than your real nature because it isn’t. You can always be in charge of your thoughts and learn from your mistakes and problems.

Bringing awareness into your life, noticing your conditioning and automatic thinking can only make your life better, so take a risk, and be willing to make mistakes because it will lead you to a better life.

Lasting Peace

We all face difficulties in life, and no one on this planet avoids them. Whether they are emotional or physical, our environment or circumstances, at some point, we will be faced with challenges. This is not something that we should need convincing of because we have already had trouble in our lives, no matter our age.

Yet somehow, we imagine life should not have obstacles or pain. Therefore, we become upset, embittered or frustrated when something happens that we perceive not to be perfect (the way we wanted). Can you see how this reaction is insane?

So why do we go on believing it is possible and not face the truth, be present with what is, and live in the moment? This is because we think that life should not have any difficulties and that is because of societies idea (conditioning) of perfection, not our own. However, this is not reality, is it?

If you can see this in your own life, then over time you can begin to see the other ways that you are conditioned, and yes, you are conditioned in many ways. Unfortunately, we become lost in our own thoughts created by this conditioning, and this makes it impossible to see without bringing awareness into our life.

To begin the journey of self-discovery and bringing awareness into your life is the way to finding and experiencing lasting peace. One that is perfect, not because difficulties never occur in your life, but one where whatever arises never takes your peace away. You finally understand that you are peaceful in your purest form and no person, experience or event can take it away.

Walking in the Shoes of Another

“I had to live in the desert before I could understand the full value of grass in a green ditch.” -Ella Maillart

There is a deeper meaning here other than that of nature and one that we often fail to recognize, and it is never more relevant than now with immigration in the minds of so many.

We cannot know what someone else is going through unless we have experienced it ourselves and even then, it may be different. Yes, we can have a perception, make a judgment or believe we know, but this is not likely to be the reality for that person.

Moreover, until we realize this truth, many will shun the other person out of hate and/or ignorance. Some will be sympathetic, but at a loss about what to do, even feeling overwhelmed by it all. Still, more will project a story about how impossible it is to do, citing many false statements, about the effects on the economy and our resources. These statements are usually based on fear, not fact. Besides, they are often used to create fear in us so a particular group can move their agenda forward.

We must ask some tough question of ourselves and do what we know is the right thing to do, not based on fear, but in truth. Many will not have the courage to this because they are so conditioned by their beliefs that to question those beliefs means they may lose their identity of who they thought they were. Their life will cease to exist as they know it and that is terrifying to them. They will deny this because they are not even aware of it.

However, for those of you that will ask those questions or perhaps already have, we are enough to turn the tide. We need to have faith and take action when called to do so. We must stick to our convictions, do what we know is the right thing to do, and lead from the heart of truth, not from our fear.

It takes courage to dive deep into the unknown of our own being and question where our beliefs came from and whether they still hold true. We may find some that we defended with great gusto that we never even believed in, it was just conditioning from the beginning. However, to discover this, we must bring awareness into our lives. Because without taking this step we are destined to continue to reproduce our mistakes that history continues to show us and we continue to repeat.

As you read this post, notice how your body is feeling. Take a moment to close your eyes and be with the stillness in you. I guarantee you will find more truth here than you ever will by following the endless thoughts of your conditioning. If you find this hard, do not get discouraged; take baby steps to reconnect with the peace, truth, and presence that resides in you.