Resistance or Peace You Decide

There is a belief by many that the perfect life is a pain-free life. This is a false assumption brought about by our own conditioning and misguided thinking. With this belief, a perfect life is unattainable. Why, because there will always be pain in this world, it is an unavoidable part of our life because we have physical and emotional feelings as human beings. Without them, we would not be having a human experience; it would be something altogether different.

You cannot resist pain and embody peace at the same time this is not possible. Real peace comes from the understanding that pain is necessary, and it is not a punishment. It is only by changing your perception about pain that you can begin the journey to finding lasting peace.

You must no longer see your pain as a punishment or a problem, but an opportunity to heal. It is an indicator that something in your life is out of balance and once it is put back into balance, the pain will disappear or no longer matter to you. If you continue to resist this guidance, then you will suffer.

To avoid suffering, you must embrace what is happening, move into acceptance when you are faced with the truth and let go of any resistance to that truth. Once you do, you open the door to connecting with your innate nature, which is always in a peaceful state. From this place, you can remain peaceful no matter what is happening outside of you. It allows you to see things more clearly and make better choices in life. This shift does not just affect yourself but also the collective energy that connects us all.

Moving Forward in Life

Many things in life keep us stuck and from moving forward in the way that we want. The unconscious resistance we experience is caused by a very long list of things that partially includes our thoughts, beliefs, perceptions, and feelings.

It is not a question whether you have resistance in your life or not, but how strongly it affects you. Becoming aware of your resistance is the first step, and that only happens through awareness and paying attention.

Here are four feelings that tell us something important about ourselves and show us that we are resisting life in some way. They are anger, boredom, hate, and frustration.

  • First, they say that we are not taking responsibility for what we are feeling.
  • Second, we are not paying attention to our own inner state.
  • Third, that we are placing blame on something or someone else. Therefore, the problem is out there.
  • Fourth, it shows that we are no longer in the present moment and not paying attention because we are lost in emotion and/or thought.

When we point to anyone or anything outside of ourselves, or when we try to explain something away, we are lost. The thoughts we have tell us that we are not responsible for what we are feeling. In those moments, we are not capable of seeing the truth, and we are no longer in the present moment because we are too busy placing blame elsewhere to try to make ourselves feel justified or better. There is a reason why I am feeling this way, so I do not need to look any further.

There is always a moment of clarity if we are paying attention that will offer us an opportunity.  If we seize the opportunity, we can recognize the problem resides in us and nowhere else. A simple way to know this is true is to see that someone else in the same situation will respond appropriately and without feeling out of balance.

Now, I know it is not an easy task, to pay attention during these situations, but anyone can do it if they want. Know that it may take repeated practice. However, if you have a clear intention to let go of who you have become the Universe will offer plenty of practice time, I promise. Moreover, with practice, one day you will surprise yourself with how far you have come. For most of us waking up is not an event but a journey. You must remain diligent.

Obstacles

Eventually, on the path of awakening, you will recognize that the obstacle is part of the journey. Living a peaceful life is not about avoiding obstacles, or trying to resist what is happening now, that will only cause more suffering.

A change in your perception will change the experience, and that will change the outcome. Let me say it another way. The problem is not the issue as much as your perception about it. Change your perception, and your problem can become an opportunity.

Love, What If?

What if love is more than you think, that it is more than an expression towards another person or thing? What if you are love; what if you are love in human form? If you saw yourself this way, how would your life change? How might your actions or words change towards other people? Would you live your life differently?

Are you living your life only sometimes as a loving human being, or as an expression of love in human form? Do you see the difference? If everyone lived this way, can you see how different your life would be, how different the world would be?

Lasting Peace

We all face difficulties in life, and no one on this planet avoids them. Whether they are emotional or physical, our environment or circumstances, at some point, we will be faced with challenges. This is not something that we should need convincing of because we have already had trouble in our lives, no matter our age.

Yet somehow, we imagine life should not have obstacles or pain. Therefore, we become upset, embittered or frustrated when something happens that we perceive not to be perfect (the way we wanted). Can you see how this reaction is insane?

So why do we go on believing it is possible and not face the truth, be present with what is, and live in the moment? This is because we think that life should not have any difficulties and that is because of societies idea (conditioning) of perfection, not our own. However, this is not reality, is it?

If you can see this in your own life, then over time you can begin to see the other ways that you are conditioned, and yes, you are conditioned in many ways. Unfortunately, we become lost in our own thoughts created by this conditioning, and this makes it impossible to see without bringing awareness into our life.

To begin the journey of self-discovery and bringing awareness into your life is the way to finding and experiencing lasting peace. One that is perfect, not because difficulties never occur in your life, but one where whatever arises never takes your peace away. You finally understand that you are peaceful in your purest form and no person, experience or event can take it away.

Walking in the Shoes of Another

“I had to live in the desert before I could understand the full value of grass in a green ditch.” -Ella Maillart

There is a deeper meaning here other than that of nature and one that we often fail to recognize, and it is never more relevant than now with immigration in the minds of so many.

We cannot know what someone else is going through unless we have experienced it ourselves and even then, it may be different. Yes, we can have a perception, make a judgment or believe we know, but this is not likely to be the reality for that person.

Moreover, until we realize this truth, many will shun the other person out of hate and/or ignorance. Some will be sympathetic, but at a loss about what to do, even feeling overwhelmed by it all. Still, more will project a story about how impossible it is to do, citing many false statements, about the effects on the economy and our resources. These statements are usually based on fear, not fact. Besides, they are often used to create fear in us so a particular group can move their agenda forward.

We must ask some tough question of ourselves and do what we know is the right thing to do, not based on fear, but in truth. Many will not have the courage to this because they are so conditioned by their beliefs that to question those beliefs means they may lose their identity of who they thought they were. Their life will cease to exist as they know it and that is terrifying to them. They will deny this because they are not even aware of it.

However, for those of you that will ask those questions or perhaps already have, we are enough to turn the tide. We need to have faith and take action when called to do so. We must stick to our convictions, do what we know is the right thing to do, and lead from the heart of truth, not from our fear.

It takes courage to dive deep into the unknown of our own being and question where our beliefs came from and whether they still hold true. We may find some that we defended with great gusto that we never even believed in, it was just conditioning from the beginning. However, to discover this, we must bring awareness into our lives. Because without taking this step we are destined to continue to reproduce our mistakes that history continues to show us and we continue to repeat.

As you read this post, notice how your body is feeling. Take a moment to close your eyes and be with the stillness in you. I guarantee you will find more truth here than you ever will by following the endless thoughts of your conditioning. If you find this hard, do not get discouraged; take baby steps to reconnect with the peace, truth, and presence that resides in you.

Finding the Middle

Most things that happen in life are not good or bad; they are good and bad. Where do you put your attention? Do you have enough awareness to see them both? Do you only see the bad, which leaves you anxious, angry or depressed? On the other hand, do you focus only on the good, convincing yourself that nothing is wrong? Seeing life either way will only lead to suffering and the continued loss of our humanity.

Remember life is not about getting, it is about giving. Too many have forgotten this, and have fallen into a trance. Their focus is too narrow, and they can only see the good or the bad. This forgetfulness creates a more significant disparity between those who have and those who don’t, leaving our world in war, hunger, poverty, and turmoil.

We must awaken from our trance, or we will continue to spiral down. Our lost humanity will not just be something we gasp at in the news; it will become so regular that we will grow numb to our inhumanity.  This has already begun to happen in the name of peace and safety. Can you see it?

Will we find a way to wake up or will we continue down our current path? Each one of us must ask this question of ourselves. We must be willing to take an honest look at our beliefs and perceptions so that we can uncover the truth. Otherwise, we will continue to parrot our conditioned views and judgments out into the world, and that will only strengthen what we most dislike about it.

When we can stay in the middle, a balanced life is lived, and happiness becomes the norm. We learn to appreciate the good and have the strength to take action to improve the bad. Can we find the middle or will we continue to fight for what we think is ours and ours alone?