The Excitement of FEAR

Life can be difficult at times, which can cause emotions to run wild and wreak havoc on our sleep, body, and life. We experience worry, anxiety and endless thoughts that things will not go our way.

We become frozen in fear and are not able to take the steps we need to, to create what we want. Our fear becomes the instigator of manifesting what we worried about in the first place because of our lack of action.

Here are a few acronyms for fear I learned years ago. You may have heard them before:

False Evidence Appearing Real”

Face Everything And Recover”

Future Events Already Ruined”

However, this next one has more power in it. It is important to know that we can change our perceptions. Once we do our experience also changes. Therefore, the acronym for fear I want to share with you today is this:

Feeling Excited And Ready”

Now doesn’t that feel different from the other ones when you read it? Yes, the three I mentioned above can bring new insight to your situation, but they do not necessarily get you moving or encourage taking action. When we feel a sense of adventure taking action is much easier because we want to move forward, our fear shifts or drops away entirely and no longer is an obstacle, it becomes a motivator. Yes, fear can be a motivator.

Back in my alcoholic drinking days, the fear of going to jail became a motivator for me to stop drinking and it got me to take action. If you think about it, at some point in your life fear was a decisive factor in making some kind of positive change in your life, and you just did not notice it at the time.

Therefore, the next time you become overwhelmed with fear and your thoughts run amuck, remember the acronym and say to yourself, I am feeling excited and ready; I am prepared for this new adventure. From this new perspective, you can start taking action instead of being paralyzed in a fearful story of your own making.

Mistakes

Would life be different for you if you did not think that making a mistake was wrong? Would you then take more risks in your life? What if I told you that you were conditioned to feel this way and that in truth there is nothing wrong with making mistakes. In fact, that is how we learn.

Think about that for a minute, can you make a wrong choice if you are always learning from your so-called mistakes and moving forward with greater awareness in your life? Would you still consider it a mistake or a gift?

What if your conditioning had not taught you to think that anything short of perfection was wrong or incomplete. What if we had been shown never to fear to make mistakes and we saw them as opportunities, a chance to learn, grow and move forward in life with a new awareness.

Can you look back on your life to times when you thought you made a mistake and it led you to a new understanding about yourself or your life? Can you see that this so-called error was actually a guiding light to something better in your life?

Making a mistake is never wrong if we see it as an opportunity and learn from it. That is the beauty of life, we always have the chance to start over, to learn and make all of our mistakes and problems into victories.

Remember the more significant the mistake or problem, the greater the triumph when you overcome it.

Now, you are to remember that, so that when you have a disturbance of any kind raging inside you, you will never follow your conditioning and go into automatic thinking that the storm is stronger than your real nature because it isn’t. You can always be in charge of your thoughts and learn from your mistakes and problems.

Bringing awareness into your life, noticing your conditioning and automatic thinking can only make your life better, so take a risk, and be willing to make mistakes because it will lead you to a better life.

Humanity and Mother Earth Are One

The whole humanity is as one single body, and all nations and communities and races as the different organs and the happiness and well-being of each of them is the happiness and well-being of the whole body. If there is one organ of the body in pain, the whole body has to sustain a share of the strain of it. That by this message mankind may begin to think that his welfare and his well-being is not in looking after himself, but it is in looking after others, and when in all there will be reciprocity, love, and goodness towards another, the better time will come.”

-Hazrat Inayat Khan

I would also say that the living organism we call home is part of the whole and perhaps the most essential organ of them all because without it surviving we will not survive. It too must be looked after, and we must recognize that our actions cause pain and suffering to our only home. If we continue as we are, it will one day run out of resources, and it seems now that too many in power around the world do not care enough to change the course, to protect Mother Earth.

We take from it, and poison its body every second of every day and just like the human body that is mistreated it will become sick and die sooner than it would with proper attention, love and care. We must be forward-thinking, open and kind to the planet if we want it to survive, and if we want future generations to survive.

With each passing year, the world becomes smaller, and humanity grows closer through our interconnectedness. Our neighbors are no longer just those people on our street or block, in our city, state or even country. This ever-widening circle is changing, and with this change, it will become increasingly harder to live as we have in the past. We want to keep what is ours, what feels comfortable, what we are used to and we are slow to adapt and to accept change. Our misguided fears tell us that what we have is in jeopardy, so we cling to what we have, and we push to get more and to keep things the way they are. However, this is happening and is inevitable through our own inventions, and we need to release our fears.

If we keep our attention solely focused on self-interest and the set boundaries of old beliefs, then we are destined for even more suffering than what we are experiencing today. Our leaders and we must understand this fact, because if we do not, then our indifference to this change will lead to greater wars, death, and destruction. This denial of the inevitable, not letting go of the past and flowing with the natural evolution of our time will cause great suffering for future generations.

We must be a part of the solution and part of creating the future that we all want. We all want a peaceful world, a loving, safe and kind world. We want to have our needs met, with food, shelter, water and a way to support our families and ourselves.

We must start today to build a strong foundation for tomorrow. If we continue to hold tightly to the past and repeating our mistakes, then we will continue to destroy faster than we can heal. Then one day we will end up on life support with no hope for humanity or the planet. However, there is hope, and there is time if we see the truth and act now.

Real Change

The only place we can indeed change anything is within ourselves. This inner journey is the most essential part of our human experience, and yet it is rarely put at the top of our list and pursued first, if at all.

Why, because we have been socially conditioned to think that many other things in life are more important. We have become so focused on getting these things, we fail to see that as we change, the world outside us changes with us.

We are too busy taking care of everyone else or working so hard to change everything out in the world that we neglect looking within and this is the only real way to make lasting change in our lives and in the world. Too many people never understand this until very late in life or unfortunately, not at all, and without it, we all suffer more than is necessary.

You have a tremendous opportunity if you are reading this now to wake up to this truth. To hear what I am saying and connect with that part of you that already knows and feels the trueness of it.

This is the first step, and then if you pay attention, you will be guided to the next action with minimal effort as long as you stay aware of your conditioning and let it go when it comes up.

Social conditioning is easy to identify because it will be at odds with what you feel in your body. Trust what your body is telling you because it will never lead you astray. If your thoughts are saying something different, then they are lying to you, not your body. Your conditioning, cunning and persistent will use your thoughts to trick you, keeping you stuck in life. Remember when you are in command of yourself, you are in command of your life and your happiness.

Resistance or Peace You Decide

There is a belief by many that the perfect life is a pain-free life. This is a false assumption brought about by our own conditioning and misguided thinking. With this belief, a perfect life is unattainable. Why, because there will always be pain in this world, it is an unavoidable part of our life because we have physical and emotional feelings as human beings. Without them, we would not be having a human experience; it would be something altogether different.

You cannot resist pain and embody peace at the same time this is not possible. Real peace comes from the understanding that pain is necessary, and it is not a punishment. It is only by changing your perception about pain that you can begin the journey to finding lasting peace.

You must no longer see your pain as a punishment or a problem, but an opportunity to heal. It is an indicator that something in your life is out of balance and once it is put back into balance, the pain will disappear or no longer matter to you. If you continue to resist this guidance, then you will suffer.

To avoid suffering, you must embrace what is happening, move into acceptance when you are faced with the truth and let go of any resistance to that truth. Once you do, you open the door to connecting with your innate nature, which is always in a peaceful state. From this place, you can remain peaceful no matter what is happening outside of you. It allows you to see things more clearly and make better choices in life. This shift does not just affect yourself but also the collective energy that connects us all.

Moving Forward in Life

Many things in life keep us stuck and from moving forward in the way that we want. The unconscious resistance we experience is caused by a very long list of things that partially includes our thoughts, beliefs, perceptions, and feelings.

It is not a question whether you have resistance in your life or not, but how strongly it affects you. Becoming aware of your resistance is the first step, and that only happens through awareness and paying attention.

Here are four feelings that tell us something important about ourselves and show us that we are resisting life in some way. They are anger, boredom, hate, and frustration.

  • First, they say that we are not taking responsibility for what we are feeling.
  • Second, we are not paying attention to our own inner state.
  • Third, that we are placing blame on something or someone else. Therefore, the problem is out there.
  • Fourth, it shows that we are no longer in the present moment and not paying attention because we are lost in emotion and/or thought.

When we point to anyone or anything outside of ourselves, or when we try to explain something away, we are lost. The thoughts we have tell us that we are not responsible for what we are feeling. In those moments, we are not capable of seeing the truth, and we are no longer in the present moment because we are too busy placing blame elsewhere to try to make ourselves feel justified or better. There is a reason why I am feeling this way, so I do not need to look any further.

There is always a moment of clarity if we are paying attention that will offer us an opportunity.  If we seize the opportunity, we can recognize the problem resides in us and nowhere else. A simple way to know this is true is to see that someone else in the same situation will respond appropriately and without feeling out of balance.

Now, I know it is not an easy task, to pay attention during these situations, but anyone can do it if they want. Know that it may take repeated practice. However, if you have a clear intention to let go of who you have become the Universe will offer plenty of practice time, I promise. Moreover, with practice, one day you will surprise yourself with how far you have come. For most of us waking up is not an event but a journey. You must remain diligent.

Obstacles

Eventually, on the path of awakening, you will recognize that the obstacle is part of the journey. Living a peaceful life is not about avoiding obstacles, or trying to resist what is happening now, that will only cause more suffering.

A change in your perception will change the experience, and that will change the outcome. Let me say it another way. The problem is not the issue as much as your perception about it. Change your perception, and your problem can become an opportunity.