I am Exhausted, Debate, Debate, Debate

Don’t you think it is about time that we stop holding our personal beliefs so tightly that nothing ever is done? Don’t you think it is about time that we get honest with ourselves and do what is right for our kids, future generations, and the world? Don’t you think it is about time we realize that there is no one answer and this issue must be addressed from multiple sides?

Do you think you know what I am talking about? Well, guess again because this is not just about guns. You are you so fixated on your side of any issue that you cannot see what needs to be done. Whether we are talking about guns, mental health, abortion, teen pregnancy, climate change or any other hot topic, we need to stop doing what we are doing now because it is not working.

What will work is a balanced approach that neither side will be thrilled with; however, from this place lives will be helped and saved. We must stop putting the issues and our beliefs first and put the human being that needs our help and love first, not the other way around.

Stop telling other people they are wrong. Telling other people they are wrong only makes them hold to their beliefs even tighter. It does not give them the space to think or to use common sense.

Everyone must first look into their hearts and do what is right even when it goes against their beliefs. We must all take a searching, and fearless moral inventory of ourselves and not someone else’s for them.

We must do what is morally right and compassionate. We must do what is right for the people who are suffering and dying, and we must be willing to let go of our desire to get what we want for the sake of the other person.

Freedom is not found in mere activity, but by taking an honest look at ourselves, our lives and then finding a way to be of service to those around us.

Even if something is written in the bible, spiritual text, constitution or law, we must be willing to revisit it, to contemplate it and make sure that it still makes sense in today’s world. Things change, and we must be willing to change with them, or we will continue to suffer from our stubbornness to keep things the same. Besides, in truth you cannot, just look at history.

When we dare to look within, begin living from our hearts and not our repetitive and fixed thoughts alone, do what is right for the other person, and let go of our self-centered desires, things will begin to get better. Otherwise, we will be stuck in this cycle of debate for years. Besides, things will change anyway, so the choice is, do we want things to change now or should we wait until we are forced to change?

 

 

 

Insights to Releasing Obstacles

You cannot completely resolve any difficult obstacle in your life without feeling all the emotions associated with that event. They must be fully felt and then released. Otherwise, the leftover energy of the unprocessed emotions will be stored in your body. When this energy is strong enough, it will influence your choices and behaviors in life, and it can even begin to affect your health. Sometimes you can see these influences, but usually, it happens below your level of awareness, unless you are paying attention.

Remember that your thoughts can fool you into thinking that you have worked through everything. However, if you did not, this residual emotional energy will reinsert itself back into your life through your thoughts and actions. This is why paying attention and being aware of your thoughts and actions is so important. Through this attention, it will be revealed to you if you have more emotion or energy to release. Know that you cannot be fooled by your thoughts if you watch them without attachment.

An Insight Into Suffering

The truth is that through our suffering we have the opportunity to awaken and heal. Of course, this is only if we pay attention and look for these opportunities within our suffering. Second, have you noticed how suffering brings us together? Without it, we are stuck in a conditioned life seeking only those things that distract us from the truth, lasting happiness, joy and that drive us apart. We become stuck in a life of repetition that offers us very little of what is possible in the short life we have here on earth. You may not see this truth now, but I assure you, if you begin to look for it, you will find it.

 

THE SHIFT

Beginning to Take Right Action

When we act from our True-Self, it is impossible to hurt another human being. The True-Self is our authentic self; we act from divine guidance, unencumbered by social conditioning. Social conditioning is the process of training people in our society to have certain beliefs, behaviors, desires and emotional reactions, which are approved by society in general or by a certain group within it. We all have social conditioning to some extent. Therefore, do not assume you are above it.

It is only when we act from this conditioning or the False-Self that we hurt others. The False-Self is the person we have become from this social conditioning. In addition to the social conditioning or because of it, we have created a persona to show the world that we are OK, strong and without problems or human frailties. We put on a good face in the midst of our troubles.

After reading this, the next time you lash out or take the wrong action, there will be a moment when who you really are, the True-Self will speak to you. It may happen during or sometime after the event, but it will happen. It will be up to you in that moment to hear the message and to then take the proper action going forward.

This will begin a life-changing chain reaction, it will gradually strengthen your connection to who you really are, the True-Self, and eventually your only choice will be the right action.

The challenge here is to have the desire to live from the True-Self and to break free from the False-Self through awareness. To live a life of right action, instead of continuing to live in your current state of habit, hardened conventionality and for many, a form of self-imposed hypnosis created by your social conditioning.

Surviving the Rough Waters Ahead

“If you don’t become the ocean, you’ll get seasick everyday.” – Leonard Cohen

Those who want to stay stuck in the old ways of thinking and behavior will continue to feel seasick. Their lack of understanding will only increase their suffering as they struggle to avoid the inevitable. You cannot stop the power of oneness that is bursting from the hearts of so many beings from around the world today.

Donald Trump and many others in power, in this country and around the world are an expression of this old thinking and behavior. Our continued evolution has brought it to the surface so that those who could not see it before can no longer avoid seeing the truth.

Those who continue to express the old paradigm cannot survive. Yes, this can be painful for those who still fear that our old ways have the power to survive and retake their lofty place in the world again. However, I can assure you this cannot happen; this will not happen. Let go of your suffering and use your fearful energy to focus on what you want; use it to catapult yourself forward, instead of holding you back. Fear is not your enemy; it can be your ally to healing when used for good.

We can no longer fear our neighbor, whether they are across the street or around the world, because in the end it will be love that brings us together, not hate, not fear, not anger; not anything that is not born out of our oneness. Deep in our hearts, everyone knows this, even those who do not seem to express it.

What many are seeing so vividly now is the expression of our deepest conditioning. If it makes you fearful, angry or worried, then you are part of the solution and you must transform this energy and use it for healing and nothing else. Otherwise, this energy will feed the very thing that makes you fearful, angry and worried. Then you will be prolonging the inevitable and your own suffering.

Remember, become the ocean and end your seasickness.

Loneliness and Other Difficult Feelings   

Have you ever felt lonely? Many of us have been conditioned to think that we should never feel lonely and if we do, something is wrong with us. This is simply not true. Everyone at some point in their lives will feel lonely and many of us will feel this way at different times in our lives. What I would like you to know is that this is normal, it is part of the human condition and there is nothing wrong with you if you feel occasional loneliness.

Loneliness is not something you should try to avoid when it shows up in your life. In fact, you should get to know your loneliness. This is how you take the power out of it, by listening to it, learning from it and feeling it. Eventually getting to a place where in the midst of it, you know that you are OK and that what you are feeling is temporary.

Unfortunately, society often teaches us that any feelings that have a negative connotation, like loneliness, we should not have to feel or even experience. With this kind of conditioning, we often feel worse because we think that it is wrong to feel the way that we do. It should never be wrong to feel our feelings, no matter what they are; this is your truth in that moment, so be with them and stop resisting.

The idea that we should always feel happy is so ingrained in our society that even out of concern someone can make you feel worse for feeling the way that you do. We must always remember that what we are feeling is valid and that we should never be made to feel less than, because of what we are feeling.

Our first instinct is to use distractions when we feel uncomfortable. The problem with this tactic is that many of them are self-destructive. We are using our mental and emotional energy to keep up a state of resistance and avoid being with our feelings. This will perpetuate your suffering and lead you further away from healing.

Think about it, what distractions do you turn to in your uncomfortableness? Is it food, candy, alcohol, shopping, binging on TV, the computer or do you find some other way to numb these feelings?

When you find yourself absorbed in one of your distractions, stop and pay attention to what you are feeling. Then take a deep breath, be present with your feelings and begin to let them go. This is how you suffer less in your life and start to awaken.

Where did you get this idea that you should never feel lonely? In addition, do you think that you should never get angry, frustrated, worried or have any feelings that you perceive as bad? When did you first begin to think this way? Can you remember or is it perhaps an unconscious or conditioned belief, leading to automatic thoughts and behavior?

I am not presenting these questions to get you tangled up in your past or your problems. I only present them to get you to wonder and be more inquisitive about why you do what you do. Pay attention, it is the starting point to finding your way out.

Know that you do not always have to figure things out to let them go. The idea that you cannot let something go or heal without figuring it out first is a trap. Having to figure it out, means you will have to hold onto it. You will do this until you figure it out. In many cases, you will never be able to accomplish this, and that means you will be stuck with it. You need to decide what is more important, figuring it out or letting it go. If you choose letting go, trust that if you need to know something you will.

In the end, letting go is always the path to healing, eliminating suffering and awakening to your True-Self. The next time you think you need to figure something out, try the path of letting go and see what happens. You can always go back to figuring out.

The Opportunity Pain Presents

Our greatest opportunity to let go and heal is when we are in pain. I am referring to both physical and emotional pain. This is true because when we are in pain, what we need to let go and heal is accessible. During other times, it is often unavailable or hiding from our conscious awareness.

For example, on a physical level sometimes a client will come in with a particular pain. When describing the pain they say, when I do this it hurts. Of course, I just tell them not to do that anymore, problem solved. OK, so we know that will not actually solve the problem. However, what I have found over the years is that if I find a way to work on them in that position, where they feel the pain, I have greater success than when I work on the area in a neutral position.

The same is true around emotional issues. When our emotions are up, they can be seen clearly. If we pay attention, we have a real opportunity to let them go for good and heal. When our emotions are calm, we think that we have resolved the issue or everything will be OK in time. This is also true with pain in the body. When the pain is gone, we think the problem is gone and that we are fine. However, have you ever had a pain or emotional issues that you thought was resolved reappear?

Most people will answer yes to the previous question. In fact, many clients have thought that they had resolved their emotional issue through some other form of therapy, only to find out that there were remaining parts stored in the body. They thought it was resolved because they were not having the usual agitation. Yet when the remaining part was released from the body, there were noticeable changes in their lives.

Know that your physical and emotional pain will leave behind energy from unresolved issues in the body. This energy can affect your everyday life by influencing your choices, mood and behavior. We are usually not aware of this influence because it is happening beneath our conscious awareness. Our mind will point to something in the moment as the cause to further the deception and make us think it is something new.

However, if you feel the emotion, pain or energy as it arises, you can let it go and heal. There are many ways to bring this energy up like Spiral Release Bodywork, yoga and meditation. This process does not require you to figure the problem out or even understand it. It only requires a willingness to feel your pain and/or emotion, something we are used to resisting and have been conditioned to avoid.

It is time that we begin to recognize that the world is interconnected through energy and whether we mean to or not our current state affects the people around us, even though we might not realize it.

Remember that emotional healing does not just take place in the mind.
We just THINK it does.
Remember that letting go in the body can heal emotional issues.
Remember that letting go of emotional issues can heal the body.
Remember that there is a direct connection between the body and our emotions.
Remember that there is a direct connection between our emotions and the body.
Remember your body stores unresolved experiences energetically.
Remember to allow your pain to serve a positive purpose in your life.

Finally, remember that pain is not a problem it is an opportunity. If you adjust your perception and attitude toward pain, then your life will change dramatically for the better.

Does the World Seem Full of Hate

If you feel the world is full of hate, then you are looking through the eyes of the False-Self. Your conditioned beliefs are using you through the thoughts in your mind. You will hear, “see I am telling you the truth, just look” and then what you see and hear will logically confirm these thoughts and this will become your truth, but this is a trick of the False-Self.

Your worry, anger and frustration will energetically feed and strengthen the very thing you do not want in your life or this world.

In order to change this, you must become aware of what you are thinking and then shift your thoughts and energy towards what you want. The real world, the one beyond the conditioned self, the one the True-Self sees, is full of love, compassion and empathy. You know this is true because you have seen it when you are connected to your True-Self.

Which one will you choose to focus on? Which one will you contribute your energy to creating? I am not talking about airy, fairy, new age stuff here, this is a universal law and how energy works. We create what we put our attention on, so stop putting it where it does not belong. This has never been more noticeable than during our current presidential race. Just look at how you have been thinking about the world, other people and your life. Has it been focused on love, compassion and empathy or something else?

Your fear will not guide you back to the True-Self, unless you use it knowingly. Yes, you can use your fear to heal and grow spiritually, but only if you are aware of it and then it will guide you away from what you fear and back to your True-Self. So use your fear for your highest good, instead of it using you and keeping you stuck in the control of the False-Self.

I ask you, where is your energy going? Where is your attention? What are you thinking about when your mind should be quiet? Is it on what you want or is it leading you astray?

Things to Remember in Loss

Remember that it is OK to feel your broken heart. This act of love will not erase the memories that you cherish and the freedom that comes with letting go will only bring you closer to your True-Self.

Remember that you are never alone, even in your darkest moments of life. Call on those you trust both present and gone when you feel that no one can help, because they can.

Do not let your sorrow push away the love of family and friends because without love, you will suffer even more.

It is true that you will never forget your loss, but never let your loss become greater than your gratitude for what that person brought into your life, because if you do, it is as if they were never in your life.

When we are young, life seems inexhaustible, but as we grow older, its fleeting nature reveals itself and we can only show our gratitude for this gift by living each moment to the fullest. We must always do our best and learn from our mistakes, because we all do better when we know better.

It is OK to feel and experience your loss, take whatever time you need, but do not get so lost in your grief that you forget to go about living your life. Because this is, what the person you mourn would want for you, to live, to love, to feel, to be.

Rescue Yourself First Before The World

Rescue yourself first and stop watching the news. Trust that you will hear what you need to know and give yourself a rest from tragedy and heartache. Learn to be energy intelligent and literate. Be aware of how things affect you in the moment and not after you are already too sad, angry, tired, worried… A life well lived is one that comes from awareness and responds appropriately, instead of reacting out of conditioning.