The Opportunity Pain Presents

Our greatest opportunity to let go and heal is when we are in pain. I am referring to both physical and emotional pain. This is true because when we are in pain, what we need to let go and heal is accessible. During other times, it is often unavailable or hiding from our conscious awareness.

For example, on a physical level sometimes a client will come in with a particular pain. When describing the pain they say, when I do this it hurts. Of course, I just tell them not to do that anymore, problem solved. OK, so we know that will not actually solve the problem. However, what I have found over the years is that if I find a way to work on them in that position, where they feel the pain, I have greater success than when I work on the area in a neutral position.

The same is true around emotional issues. When our emotions are up, they can be seen clearly. If we pay attention, we have a real opportunity to let them go for good and heal. When our emotions are calm, we think that we have resolved the issue or everything will be OK in time. This is also true with pain in the body. When the pain is gone, we think the problem is gone and that we are fine. However, have you ever had a pain or emotional issues that you thought was resolved reappear?

Most people will answer yes to the previous question. In fact, many clients have thought that they had resolved their emotional issue through some other form of therapy, only to find out that there were remaining parts stored in the body. They thought it was resolved because they were not having the usual agitation. Yet when the remaining part was released from the body, there were noticeable changes in their lives.

Know that your physical and emotional pain will leave behind energy from unresolved issues in the body. This energy can affect your everyday life by influencing your choices, mood and behavior. We are usually not aware of this influence because it is happening beneath our conscious awareness. Our mind will point to something in the moment as the cause to further the deception and make us think it is something new.

However, if you feel the emotion, pain or energy as it arises, you can let it go and heal. There are many ways to bring this energy up like Spiral Release Bodywork, yoga and meditation. This process does not require you to figure the problem out or even understand it. It only requires a willingness to feel your pain and/or emotion, something we are used to resisting and have been conditioned to avoid.

It is time that we begin to recognize that the world is interconnected through energy and whether we mean to or not our current state affects the people around us, even though we might not realize it.

Remember that emotional healing does not just take place in the mind.
We just THINK it does.
Remember that letting go in the body can heal emotional issues.
Remember that letting go of emotional issues can heal the body.
Remember that there is a direct connection between the body and our emotions.
Remember that there is a direct connection between our emotions and the body.
Remember your body stores unresolved experiences energetically.
Remember to allow your pain to serve a positive purpose in your life.

Finally, remember that pain is not a problem it is an opportunity. If you adjust your perception and attitude toward pain, then your life will change dramatically for the better.

Does the World Seem Full of Hate

If you feel the world is full of hate, then you are looking through the eyes of the False-Self. Your conditioned beliefs are using you through the thoughts in your mind. You will hear, “see I am telling you the truth, just look” and then what you see and hear will logically confirm these thoughts and this will become your truth, but this is a trick of the False-Self.

Your worry, anger and frustration will energetically feed and strengthen the very thing you do not want in your life or this world.

In order to change this, you must become aware of what you are thinking and then shift your thoughts and energy towards what you want. The real world, the one beyond the conditioned self, the one the True-Self sees, is full of love, compassion and empathy. You know this is true because you have seen it when you are connected to your True-Self.

Which one will you choose to focus on? Which one will you contribute your energy to creating? I am not talking about airy, fairy, new age stuff here, this is a universal law and how energy works. We create what we put our attention on, so stop putting it where it does not belong. This has never been more noticeable than during our current presidential race. Just look at how you have been thinking about the world, other people and your life. Has it been focused on love, compassion and empathy or something else?

Your fear will not guide you back to the True-Self, unless you use it knowingly. Yes, you can use your fear to heal and grow spiritually, but only if you are aware of it and then it will guide you away from what you fear and back to your True-Self. So use your fear for your highest good, instead of it using you and keeping you stuck in the control of the False-Self.

I ask you, where is your energy going? Where is your attention? What are you thinking about when your mind should be quiet? Is it on what you want or is it leading you astray?

Things to Remember in Loss

Remember that it is OK to feel your broken heart. This act of love will not erase the memories that you cherish and the freedom that comes with letting go will only bring you closer to your True-Self.

Remember that you are never alone, even in your darkest moments of life. Call on those you trust both present and gone when you feel that no one can help, because they can.

Do not let your sorrow push away the love of family and friends because without love, you will suffer even more.

It is true that you will never forget your loss, but never let your loss become greater than your gratitude for what that person brought into your life, because if you do, it is as if they were never in your life.

When we are young, life seems inexhaustible, but as we grow older, its fleeting nature reveals itself and we can only show our gratitude for this gift by living each moment to the fullest. We must always do our best and learn from our mistakes, because we all do better when we know better.

It is OK to feel and experience your loss, take whatever time you need, but do not get so lost in your grief that you forget to go about living your life. Because this is, what the person you mourn would want for you, to live, to love, to feel, to be.

Rescue Yourself First Before The World

Rescue yourself first and stop watching the news. Trust that you will hear what you need to know and give yourself a rest from tragedy and heartache. Learn to be energy intelligent and literate. Be aware of how things affect you in the moment and not after you are already too sad, angry, tired, worried… A life well lived is one that comes from awareness and responds appropriately, instead of reacting out of conditioning.

The Only Surefire Way to End Gun Violence

What I am about to tell you can change your life forever. In fact, it can change the world! On the other hand, you can let your ungoverned thinking stop you before you read another word and just go about your business. That means you and your life will remain the same and so will the world. At some point, each one of us has to take responsibility for waking-up to the real issue of gun violence. What is the real issue? Well, it is not what you might think, but first let’s look at current talking points and why they have not worked.

We could say that a majority of adults, including gun owners, support common sense gun control such as background checks, bans on assault weapons, and bans on high-capacity magazines. We could say that gun control laws will not prevent criminals from obtaining guns or breaking laws.  We could also say that the Second Amendment was intended to protect the right of militias to own guns, not the right of individuals or that the Second Amendment was intended to protect gun ownership of all able-bodied men so that they could participate in the militia to keep the peace and defend the country if needed. [1] The argument here is that this was before we had the military.

Many argue that eliminating guns will solve the problem, but this is just not realistic and will never happen at our current level of consciousness. Thinking that adding more background checks will solve the problem is also not a complete solution.

When we reach a place where all sides have valid points and we are unwilling to see the other side, it becomes polarizing and this makes it impossible to move forward. Therefore, we have to find another way, because we have not made any real progress in years. Gun violence is getting worse and not just in the US, but in many places around the world.

“Peace is not an absence of war. It is a virtue, a state of mind, a disposition for benevolence, trust, and justice.” – SPINOZA

So again, what is the answer? Now be careful because this is where your thinking and conditioning might raise objections. The true answer is that this is a spiritual problem and it will take some inside work to solve it. Logic alone and outside blame will not work. If they did, then I would have no need to write this article because there would be very little — if any — gun violence in the world today.

We have to recognize that the problem is not what we think it is and we have to approach the solution from a different place. Then and only then will we be able to find a solution that works.

When we look at our problems, we often look at what we think we need to change in the world; this means, outside of ourselves. We point at this person or that thing as being the problem. We do not see the real problem, because we are too busy placing blame elsewhere; we think it is out of our control or we feel so removed from the problem that we do not engage.

We fail to see that the real problem does not reside out there, but instead it resides within us. This is the last place we want to look, but I have learned it should be the first. No matter what the issue is, if we trace it back to the real source, we will find it has something to with one or many of us.

For example, we want to blame Monsanto, the pharmaceutical industry, our government, or a terrorist group. What do these examples have in common? Individuals, just like you and me make them up. We can always lay blame at someone else’s feet, but it is only when we awaken to our own participation or lack thereof that we will begin to find our way to the truth. Ignoring something that we are aware of is indirectly participating in the problem and therefore, not a valid excuse for not getting involved in some way.

Getting involved means that we look inside first, which makes this a spiritual issue. Once we recognize it is a spiritual issue, we will eventually see that it is rooted in fear. We keep it alive by not questioning our lives or taking the steps to let go of who we have become. Too many of us are stuck in routine and mediocrity; this of course leads to being passively involved in the problems of the world. We feel our lives are too overwhelming and life is complicated. This is not because we are not capable of more, because we are all capable of living happy fulfilling lives. However, we have stopped going deep into our own lives; we live on the surface, repeating habitual patterns in our daily lives. We are too afraid to let go of the person we have become and we are too conditioned to see, feel and connect with our True-Self completely.

Once we become connected with our True-Self, we would not want to shoot other people, take their money, seek power for personal gain or do anything that was not supportive of the whole. It is simply not a possible or a soulful action.

Is it OK for a Christian to shoot another person or a Muslim to blow people up in the name of religion, personal gain or even protection? I ask you, would Jesus or Mohammad do these things? Of course not, they would forgive and they would act from love. Furthermore, this is the only place we would act from if we were connected more deeply to our True-Self.

We are mistaken to think that peace will come to the world through outer pursuits and at some future time because of these pursuits. The only way to have true peace in the world is to be peaceful ourselves and this will only happen when we wake up to the peace that already resides in us, which will only occur when we let go of who we have become.

This is not some lofty idea. This is in fact the only way. Some of you will immediately become angry, defensive or think I am just another kook who does not know what he is talking about and people like me are the problem. I would only ask if you feel this way to stop and question why you are thinking this thought; where did this belief come from and is it still valid? Likewise, if you agree, ask yourself the same question. Find a way to go deeper and do not move on so quickly to the next thing, just because you agree or disagree with someone.

As long as you are on this planet, you can connect more deeply with your True-Self. Be grateful and know that no matter your situation there is always something to be grateful for in your life. Know that you can create what you want in this life without doing it at the expense of another person. In fact, being of service to another or to the world in some way will bring you your greatest blessings. Follow your heart, be kind and act from your True-Self. Some day when enough of us do this consistently, we will put an end to gun violence and all the things we see and experience in this world that do not come from love.

Remember, problems like terrorism, human trafficking, war, and of course, gun violence, will never be solved as long as we perceive the problem to be out there. Just look back through history, the landscapes may have changed, but the problems have been here for centuries and as Einstein said, “We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them.”[2]

I say, that we will never solve these world problems with thinking alone. In addition, as long as we are led around by our egos seeking power, greed and control, we can never live in the kind of world where we give more than we take or want. Since you cannot fix someone else, the only thing that you can do is become more awake yourself. If you are on this planet, then you are actively or passively participating in our problems. We are all good people at heart and everyone is doing the best that we can at their current level of awareness. However, you can always wake-up to a greater level of awareness. So I ask you to take an honest look at your life, what part are you playing in your current level of evolution? Are you actively involved or just passively letting life go by?

Healing is an inside job, so look there first before you point the finger somewhere else. Always ask what you can let go of to become more connected to your True-Self. Ask how you can be more loving, kind and accepting. We all have purpose and we all come from the same source; so no one deserves to be killed, mistreated or unloved. A tall order I know, because our conditioning runs so deep, but one we are all capable of doing better and when we know better, we do better. That is a fact!

We say, “Oh, Can’t we all just get along!” However what we really mean is, “Just do things the way I want.” Then we will have world peace. Do you think that conformity is what creation has in mind for us? If that were true, then everyone and everything would be the same. Would that be a fun world to live in?

Remember, the only solution to this problem is a spiritual solution. We need to let go of who we have become by becoming more aware of our thoughts, questioning our beliefs and letting go of those things that we recognize are no longer true for us. We need to make choices that are not only in our best interest, but also in everyone else’s best interest. This is how we end gun violence and improve our lives individually and collectively. This is how every problem that started in the past, that still exists today is finally solved. Moreover, it is the only way that we will not create problems for future generations and avoid self-destruction.

[1] http://gun-control.procon.org/ [2] http://www.thequotepedia.com/

Is It Really Their Fault

We are all doing the best we can in each moment; this is a fact. Therefore, the next time you get frustrated with another person for their actions or words, remember they are doing the best that they can, just like you.

This will not be easy to remember because you will be in the midst of your own conditioning and reacting to your thoughts and not responding appropriately. Not because of what they are doing, like your mind is telling you. It will say, it is their fault, but is it. Are you reacting to their actions or words or are you reacting to your own thoughts about them? You will not respond appropriately until you let go of your conditioning and wrong thinking. Remember you cannot think your way back to your True-Self, you only need to let go of who you have become to be your True-Self again.

False Perceptions and Beliefs

The way you are feeling is not the fault of what someone has done to you, but your perception of his or her actions, you must recognize that the problem is not out there. Once you do, then the real work begins uncovering the false perceptions and beliefs that led you to feeling hurt. When you let this go, then you can see the truth. You will see the pain and suffering that caused the other to act out. You will recognize your own role in this story and then you can rewrite it. With experience, we find that it is not what happens to us in life, but how we respond to it that dictates how much our life is filled with pain or joy.