Most of us have experienced irritation for one reason or another in our life. This irritation is a clue about our unconscious programming. Remember, everything that irritates us can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves. When we watch our reactions, responses, feelings, and thoughts about other people and events, we are given an opportunity to make a shift in our field of awareness. This shift allows us to let go of our unconscious programming, which releases the behaviors that no longer serve us.
First, make a decision that this is your intention, then begin to notice each time you become irritated. Sometimes you may not see your irritation until after the fact, and that is OK. The important thing is the recognition of the irritation, not when you notice it. As you continue this practice, you will eventually feel or hear your irritation right when it happens.
Irritation will make itself known to you through your thoughts, a feeling or a sensation in your body. Once you become aware, notice or remember what was said or happened to make you irritated.
Remember this exercise is not about beating yourself up because of your behavior, you are already doing this each time you get irritated. Irritation throws your body into an uncomfortable state, changing your mood, blood pressure, heart rate, and many other physiological changes occur. This is about letting go, just notice, reset your intention to notice your next irritation and move on. Over time, you will let go of the energetic pattern (behavior), and your True Self will rise to the surface leaving you more relaxed and peaceful.
Original post 3-26-2014 edited and reposted 12-10-2018
If you’ve got somebody’s aspects in your experience that you don’t like, there’s only one reason they’re there. You keep evoking them with your attention to them. Without knowing about Law of Attraction, you have — through your old habit of observation — achieved vibrational harmony with the parts of them that you do not like, and you keep summoning those parts from them by your constant vibrational offering of them. -Abraham
Perhaps you resonate with that part of them that you do not like, in other words, that part resides in you but you cannot see it. Whether what I just said rings true for you or there is another reason, you must let go of your constant thinking about them or their actions. Each time a thought arises say, “I am sorry please forgive me”. Say this phrase repeatedly until you forget. Say it each time you become uncomfortable or find yourself incessantly thinking about the issue. With continued practice, you will release or heal the issue. Remember that we are all connected energetically, so somewhere in you resides the energy of your upset, even if you are not aware of it. The phrase will help you release the energy so you do not need to figure it out; on the contrary, you only need to let it go.
When we truly honor who we really are it is impossible to hurt another human being. It is only when we act out of who we have become that we lash out at others and the world. After reading this, the next time you lash out, there will be a moment when who you really are will speak to you. It may happen during or sometime after this event, but it will happen. It will be up to you in that moment to listen and then take the proper action. This will begin a life-changing chain reaction, it will gradually strengthen your connection to who you really are and eventually you will hear this voice before you lash out, finally taking right action in the moment. All you have to do is pay attention and listen for this Divine guidance, because it is ALWAYS there.
Because others cannot vibrate in your experience, they cannot affect the outcome of your experience. They can hold their opinions, but unless their opinion affects your opinion, their opinion matters not at all. A million people could be pushing against you, and it would not negatively affect you unless you push back. They are affecting what happens in their experience. They are affecting their point of attraction—but it does not affect you unless you push against them.
The value of this is immeasurable in changing your experience of life. Pushing back, which is a form of resistance, increases the energy of what you are trying to avoid. Therefore, the very thing you do not want is actually being pulled toward you. This is where none attachment and acceptance open the door to healing and peace. If you know who you are, meaning you are connected to your True-Self and not being led around by the conditioned False-Self, then whether it is physical pain, emotional pain or some other disturbance in your state, you can stay centered.
This does not happen overnight for most people, but requires an unbending intention to let go of the False-Self. We start where we are and begin with what we can. As we gather strength and continue on this path, we will be shown what to let go of next. This is how we progress and when you fall off the path and you probably will, then you step back on. This is how you show the Divine that your intention is unbending and you will not give up no matter what. This is how you really begin to attract what you want in your life. Do you know what that is or are you just following the guidance of the False-Self without even knowing it? If you start to let go, then you will begin to see this more clearly, because most of us do not have clue. Are you sure you have a clue, or is it the False-Self telling you that you do, to continue its reign over you?
We all are doing our best, so the next time you get frustrated with another person for their actions or words; remember they are doing their best at that moment just like you. This will not be easy to remember because you will be in the midst of your own stuff and this is why you are reacting to what is happening. Not because of what they are doing, like your mind is telling you, “What a jerk they are”.
Wake up in that moment and feel what is going on in your body, shift your thoughts to the truth and let go. When we notice that you are the problem, not them, a completely new life opens up. It is not about being perfect because under all that stuff, you already are and this is what you need to connect with to let it all go. One-step at a time, one moment at a time, and one day at a time it will be revealed to you if you only pay attention.
Anger sometimes arrives when we are triggered by what someone says. When that happens we are taken out of the present moment and do not hear what is being said clearly, even when that someone is on our side.
When you feel the need to defend or resist what is being said, take a breath and bring yourself back into the moment. Then repeat back what you heard to be sure that you heard correctly before you allow your anger to get out of control.
If you are unable to control your anger then see this as a sign. Focus your efforts to release this issue by making a clear intention that you are ready to let it go. Realize that the underlying issue is the trigger. Know that your friends, family members and even strangers are not always out to hurt you. Expect the best of their intentions first, not the other way around.
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