Have you ever awakened to your generosity being taken advantage of, and then feel guilty for not helping anymore? This is not unique to you and happens too many of us. It is in our nature to be kind and helpful.
When we become co-dependent with a friend or family member, it is easy for them to expect our generosity every time they call on us. They can even become upset when we do not give them exactly what they want. A sure sign the relationship is co-dependent, and you need to wake up.
The hardest thing to do is to let go, but that will be the most helpful for everyone involved.
When you put everyone else first, you risk your physical and emotional well-being, then what will you have to offer anyone who actually can benefit from your help. Usually, once we let go the other person steps up and takes responsibility for their problems. However, we do not have control over their choices and the path they are on in this life. They must be free to make their own mistakes and learn from them. Otherwise, they will never realize how powerful they are and what they are capable of in this life.
We are often tricked by the mind to think that we have to figure things out or understand them to let go and heal. The truth is when we think this way; we are destined to hold onto our problems in hopes of finding the answer. However, what if the answer never comes; this is how we become saddled with our problems.
What I’ve learned through my work and life is that if we are meant to know something, the information will always show up. You must ask yourself what is more important, to figure it out or to let it go. Your answer should always be to let it go and then trust that if you are meant to know something useful, it will come to you with ease. Do not make the healing process more difficult by always having to know everything because sometimes you will never figure it out.
Actions do speak louder than words. Do your actions match your thoughts about yourself and the words you use to tell others about who you are? If not, then take a closer look at your thoughts that go unnoticed throughout the day by bringing awareness to them. Pay attention to your actions and see if your desires are in alignment with those actions. This will automatically begin the process of letting go and is a sure sign of awakening.
Many people do not like change because they associate struggle, suffering, and pain with it. The funny thing is we are more willing to resist and fight change, which causes distress. This is because we like to stay in our comfort zone, even when that comfort zone becomes uncomfortable. The truth is change is not required to grow in life or spiritually. What is needed is letting go and more specifically, letting go of the conditioned person and experience that you now find yourself living. Moreover, what really causes struggle, suffering and pain is trying to hold onto something that no longer acts in your highest good.
Letting go is the process of releasing your social conditioning and reconnecting with your True-Self or real nature through awareness. As you begin to release this conditioning and awaken, you will find that your real nature is free from past mistakes. From this place, taking action is always in alignment with your highest good, and you will see your life unfold with more ease and grace.
“We cannot live in the present or create the future we want by holding so tightly to the past. We must free ourselves from the fear and pain we carry, and we must release our desire for things to stay the same because life is always changing. Resisting this inevitable change creates suffering for us now, and it will make matters worse for those who survive after we are gone. We cannot be so selfish anymore because it has brought us to where we are now. We must find a way to put others before our selfish desires, and when we do, we will finally experience peace.”
We all are doing our best, so the next time you get frustrated with another person for their actions or words; remember they are doing their best at that moment just like you. This will not be easy to remember because you will be in the midst of your own stuff and this is why you are reacting to what is happening. Not because of what they are doing, like your mind is telling you, “What a jerk they are”.
Wake up in that moment and feel what is going on in your body, shift your thoughts to the truth and let go. When we notice that you are the problem, not them, a completely new life opens up. It is not about being perfect because under all that stuff, you already are and this is what you need to connect with to let it all go. One-step at a time, one moment at a time, and one day at a time it will be revealed to you if you only pay attention.