Letting go

A Model for Healing

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Once you consent to a non-healing thought, which means to identify with it, you will instantly slow or stop the healing process. You will be unable to create what you desire unless you become aware of these thoughts and let them go.

The letting-go process will happen naturally through awareness of these unhelpful thoughts. If any other action is needed on your part, it will be clearly shown to you, so gently pay attention. Some examples of these thoughts might be, I cannot get better, I will never change, this is not what I want, this is just who I am, or any thought that states what you desire cannot happen.

Can you feel the resistance in the examples above? It is essential to become aware of your resistance—the resistance to the healing that you seek.

I have learned from my healing journey, and that of others in my private practice, that you must never give in to these kinds of thoughts or allow them to control your choices.

Remember, never give up on your intention to heal. Because if you do, it will most likely not happen. In those moments, for example, when feelings of disappointment, frustration, or failure show up, and they might, you must step forward in faith and continue to follow your unbending intention.

Let your pain and suffering propel you forward, instead of holding you back. The thought that pain and suffering are your only problems is a problem; with this belief, you only see them as harmful, bad, and dark, which brings resistance and avoidance. Seeing them only as harmful is a perception created by your conditioning. The wise person will recognize that these experiences can guide you toward healing as well. When you only see them from the narrow view of negativity, they naturally become an overwhelming or unwelcome issue.

If you only look at your situation through a dark and narrow lens, you will never find the path to freedom. Notice I said freedom here and not healing; that is because real healing does not always show up in the same way that the mind has shown you or the way that you desire. However, if you remain open to receiving whatever shows up, it will always lead to greater freedom. That means accepting what is without conditions and continuing to move forward using your intuition as your guide. Use your mind when you need to, but do not let it use you, because its unasked-for help will mislead you. Lead from your heart and not your head.

Do not let the thought that you will not heal or get what you want to be another reason for discouragement. Use your awareness of these kinds of thoughts as motivation to inspire you to forge ahead without hesitation, because true freedom can offer you so much more, not just healing, but in other ways that you never imagined.

How Much Time Do You Need to Become Timeless?

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What you are is revealed when you let go of what you are not. You are no longer the seeker, but you remember who you are in truth.

“What we are looking for is what is looking.” ― St. Francis of Assisi

Therefore, you do not need more knowledge, rituals, or some other practice. It is discovered through the recognition of your conditioning, misguided beliefs, and habituated thinking. By using one of your greatest gifts, awareness, you can begin to uncover your True-Self or real nature through direct experience.

Of course, you can continue to follow your thoughts and the mind, which will keep you trapped in a never-ending journey. They will always confirm that what you seek is just around the next corner. Yes, you will make some progress this way. However, you may have already noticed that you are not getting very far. Ask yourself this question and see where it leads: how much time do you need to become timeless?

Co-Dependency and Letting-Go

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Have you ever awakened to your generosity being taken advantage of, and then feel guilty for not helping anymore? This is not unique to you and happens too many of us. It is in our nature to be kind and helpful.

When we become co-dependent with a friend or family member, it is easy for them to expect our generosity every time they call on us. They can even become upset when we do not give them exactly what they want. A sure sign the relationship is co-dependent, and you need to wake up.

The hardest thing to do is to let go, but that will be the most helpful for everyone involved.

When you put everyone else first, you risk your physical and emotional well-being, then what will you have to offer anyone who actually can benefit from your help. Usually, once we let go the other person steps up and takes responsibility for their problems. However, we do not have control over their choices and the path they are on in this life. They must be free to make their own mistakes and learn from them. Otherwise, they will never realize how powerful they are and what they are capable of in this life.

Have You Been Tricked Already?

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We are often tricked by the mind to think that we have to figure things out or understand them to let go and heal. The truth is when we think this way; we are destined to hold onto our problems in hopes of finding the answer. However, what if the answer never comes; this is how we become saddled with our problems.

What I’ve learned through my work and life is that if we are meant to know something, the information will always show up. You must ask yourself what is more important, to figure it out or to let it go. Your answer should always be to let it go and then trust that if you are meant to know something useful, it will come to you with ease. Do not make the healing process more difficult by always having to know everything because sometimes you will never figure it out.

 

One Small Step Toward Awakening

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Actions do speak louder than words. Do your actions match your thoughts about yourself and the words you use to tell others about who you are? If not, then take a closer look at your thoughts that go unnoticed throughout the day by bringing awareness to them. Pay attention to your actions and see if your desires are in alignment with those actions. This will automatically begin the process of letting go and is a sure sign of awakening.

Reconnecting with Your Real Nature

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Many people do not like change because they associate struggle, suffering, and pain with it. The funny thing is we are more willing to resist and fight change, which causes distress. This is because we like to stay in our comfort zone, even when that comfort zone becomes uncomfortable. The truth is change is not required to grow in life or spiritually. What is needed is letting go and more specifically, letting go of the conditioned person and experience that you now find yourself living. Moreover, what really causes struggle, suffering and pain is trying to hold onto something that no longer acts in your highest good.

Letting go is the process of releasing your social conditioning and reconnecting with your True-Self or real nature through awareness. As you begin to release this conditioning and awaken, you will find that your real nature is free from past mistakes. From this place, taking action is always in alignment with your highest good, and you will see your life unfold with more ease and grace.

Experiencing Peace

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“We cannot live in the present or create the future we want by holding so tightly to the past. We must free ourselves from the fear and pain we carry, and we must release our desire for things to stay the same because life is always changing. Resisting this inevitable change creates suffering for us now, and it will make matters worse for those who survive after we are gone. We cannot be so selfish anymore because it has brought us to where we are now. We must find a way to put others before our selfish desires, and when we do, we will finally experience peace.”

LET it GO

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We all are doing our best, so the next time you get frustrated with another person for their actions or words; remember they are doing their best at that moment just like you. This will not be easy to remember because you will be in the midst of your own stuff and this is why you are reacting to what is happening. Not because of what they are doing, like your mind is telling you, “What a jerk they are”.

Wake up in that moment and feel what is going on in your body, shift your thoughts to the truth and let go. When we notice that you are the problem, not them, a completely new life opens up. It is not about being perfect because under all that stuff, you already are and this is what you need to connect with to let it all go. One-step at a time, one moment at a time, and one day at a time it will be revealed to you if you only pay attention.