I received this question in an email. I have edited my response to make it universal and I hope you find it helpful.
Unwittingly, it seems I have become a very negative person, full of fear. Will God help me?
You help yourself by taking right action. If you have BECOME a negative person then you can BECOME a positive person. It is your choice! Is every thought you have positive? If not, then re-frame it. This requires you to pay attention to your thoughts and actions and when they are not positive, change them. You do this enough and one day you will have more positive thoughts than negative. Pay attention!
Do not make excuses that it is because of this or that. You are making your choices today in each moment. Yes, you may have been treated wrongly in the past, but you are an adult and you know when you have a wrong thought or take a wrong action and your past is no excuse for your choices in this moment. So stop blaming your past for your choices now, take responsibility for your choices.
Do not wait for God to heal you, heal yourself by doing these things. What you fear is fear itself and not the truth. When you face your fear you will find that these thoughts were all for nothing and just an illusion. It is through facing your fear that you will become empowered, otherwise you will allow your fear to hold you back, hold you down and your life will be small. If you desire more then do more. God helps those who help themselves.
If you want to change your life, seek out what you feel is your wrongness. Know that when someone’s wrongness comes out and it is pointed in your direction, that we all carry the burden of our perceived wrongness. This is not personal, except when you think it is. You must forgive them, as you would want to be forgiven. Know that even when you are working on yourself and doing your best it may come out. Make amends to that person as soon as you can and most of all forgive yourself. We all need to let go of our perceived wrongness to be at peace, live in joy and stop hurting one another.
Do not expect to receive amends when you feel hurt lest your own wrongness will come out, forgive instead. If you do receive amends, then be grateful and remember how that feels. This will help you remember to make amends when your wrongness comes out.
Learn from wrongness so when necessary you can take the proper action. I have found that when we let go and heal our wrongness, often the troublesome people in our lives leave. When this is not possible, we find that their actions no longer bother us in the same way.
Repeatedly expecting someone else’s behavior to be different will not change their behavior and only causes you to suffer. Let go of your expectation and see the truth of their behavior. It is only by being present with the truth, that you can move forward and find peace again.
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