Here is the thing, if you are not consciously involved in how your life is evolving, then be ready to wake up one day and wonder how you ended up where you are in life.
If you are not present for what is happening, I guarantee there will be suffering. Being able to change your perception of what is happening is a requirement for staying in the moment and avoiding suffering.
You cannot robotically go through your daily life and at the same time live in the moment. You must wake up and become aware of your robotic thoughts and actions if you want to stay in the present moment.
If you embrace change, explore your inner self, become present for whatever is happening in your life, then you will see the miracles happening all around you.
Trust that what is happening is for your highest good. I assure you that it is no matter how it seems at the time. Otherwise, life will feel like it is beating you up all the time with one difficult thing after another. Take it from me this is not fun at all. Life is not meant to be lived this way. I offer this change in perception. Instead of thinking that life is conspiring against you, know that it is always conspiring in your favor.